• Maybe That’s The Real Reason Why Some Christians Want the Accused to Be Given A Pass

•Maybe That’s The Real Reason Why Some Christians Want the Accused to Be Given A Pass

I sometimes visit spiritual abuse blogs that also at times feature posts about how churches mishandle sexual abuse or domestic abuse cases.

Almost any time one of these blogs posts a new story about someone claiming they were sexually abused by someone in the church, reported the abuse to the church staff, the staff then swept the abuse under the rug and protected the accused, you can then expect several people to drop in to leave comments saying things like, “But we’re all sinners, who are you to judge the accused!”

Sometimes, the same thing happens in the secular world, and it got me to thinking.

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• The Conservative (Right Wing) Criteria Required Before Believing Sexual Abuse Victims, As Put Forward by Some Conservatives – A Critique By A Conservative

The Conservative (Right Wing) Criteria Required Before Believing Sexual Abuse Victims, As Put Forward by Some Conservatives – A Critique By A Conservative

I was watching conservative news show “Tucker Carlson Tonight” on Fox cable news network on the evening of December 14, 2017, and I wanted to comment on the segment where Carlson interviewed Mark Steyn.

I usually agree with Carlson on many topics (I myself am a conservative), and I usually find Steyn quite amusing.

However, I’m not so sure I am on the same page as Carlson, Steyn, and a few other right wingers on the topic of sexual harassment allegations and how they should be treated or regarded.

On tonight’s edition of “Tucker Carlson Tonight,” Carlson let Steyn discuss the topic of sexual harassment in our culture.

Both gentlemen have expressed concern that women reporting sexual harassment has turned into some kind of “witch hunt” in which innocent men may be accused.

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• He Supposedly Realized Raping Women Was Wrong Only Until After He Had Daughters and Took Yoga Classes

I’m not sure what to say about this, that there are some men in the United States (or around the world) who are not cognizant of the fact that touching women sexually without their consent is always morally wrong.

I saw this on Twitter, regarding music producer Russell Simmons, by way of The New York Times Arts twitter account (Tweet link):

The image in the NY Times Art tweet has text on it reading as follows, quoting Russell Simmons speaking to his alleged rape victim, Drew Dixon:

“I have daughters and I do yoga now, Drew, and I know what I did was wrong, and I’m sorry”

The New York Times has coverage here and from The Hollywood Reporter. Via Newsweek.

I am unable to access the NYT article because I do not have a paid subscription to their site.

In what universe is this Simmons deviant living in where he supposedly did not realize that it’s morally wrong and disgusting for a man to rape a woman, whether or not a man has a daughter or takes Yoga classes or not?

It really should not take a man having a daughter of his own to view women as full-fledged human beings worthy of dignity on their own merit.

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• One of the Best Things Churches Can Do for People With Mental Illness by A. Simpson

One of the Best Things Churches Can Do for People With Mental Illness

“Please don’t tell anyone,” she pleaded. “They won’t let me serve anymore.”

by Amy Simpson

…After all, I have heard countless stories of exactly that. From Bible study leaders to Sunday school teachers to ministry coordinators to senior pastors, people have been asked to step away from ministry because they face mental health challenges.

…It is tragic to think how many people have been stripped of ministry opportunities because they have depression, anxiety sometimes overwhelms them, or occasionally they aren’t sure what’s real.

Essentially, churches find people among them who need the structure and purpose of serving in ministry and immediately take it away. Then we ask people to get better without one of the most helpful things they could have in their lives.

Perhaps among the cruelest ways we regularly respond to mental illness is by implying that people with mental illness have no purpose in the church or God’s kingdom.

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• How To Navigate Social Anxiety at Christmas by Lucy Dimbylow

How To Navigate Social Anxiety at Christmas by Lucy Dimbylow

…Social anxiety is defined as an overwhelming fear of social situations, with symptoms ranging from a sense of dread about socialising to terrifying panic attacks.

For me, it’s tied in with my other mental health issues (I become increasingly phobic about socialising when I’m depressed); for others, it’s a standalone condition that can be extremely debilitating.

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• Confusing the Issue: Asking For or Seeking Equality Is Not the Same Thing as Being Selfish or “Power Hungry”

Confusing the Issue: Asking For or Seeking Equality Is Not the Same Thing as Being Selfish or “Power Hungry”

Sometimes non-complementarians – being  those who disagree with complementarianism (especially women) – saying that Christians should grant women equal opportunity is misconstrued by complementarians, or by others, to mean women are “power hungry.” They then go on to lecture that wanting power, or equality, or an “equal say so,” is selfish or wrong.

I’ve even seen Christians online post a photo or two taken from a church sign where the sign has the following text on it: “Satan also demanded to have rights” – or something of that nature, as if to suggest it is wrong for anyone to “demand equal rights.”

It’s mind-boggling to me how any Christian can depict anyone seeking to redress unfairness in relationships, culture, churches, or where ever else, as being on par with selfishness or Satanism.

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• Complementarianism Is the Genderized Form of American Racist Jim Crow Laws – You’re Separate But Equal, or, Equal in Worth Not In Role

Complementarianism Is the Genderized Form of American Racist Jim Crow Laws – You’re Separate But Equal, or, Equal in Worth Not In Role

I was discussing in part 1 how most Christian gender complementarians are not usually accurate or forth-right and up-front about what they really mean when they use the word “complementarian.”

There are unspoken, yet understood, rules to the word, by complementarians, that is, the word does not merely mean that the two sexes ‘complement’ each other, but it is assumed by those who go by the term that God approves and wants a male hierarchy and a permanent female subordination.

Complementarians will say often in their sermons, pod casts, articles, and blog posts, that they believe that women are “equal in worth to men, but not in role,” a phrase or concept which was coined by George Knight III in his 1977 book “New Testament Teaching on the Role Relationship of Men and Women”  (source: The Genesis of Confusion: How ‘Complementarians’ Have Corrupted Communication (PDF Format, from CBE International))

As that PDF page by Giles explains, those Christians who reject equality for women (that would be complementarians and Christian patriarchalists) had to find new language to keep up appearances and not sound like the hucksters of sexism in God’s name that they truly are.

(And yes, what I just wrote also applies to even the “nice” complementarians, and the well-meaning, but still- in- error saner, “soft” complementarians, who still try to defend complementarianism, though they see more and more of its problems in theory and application with every day that passes).

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