If asked to name signs of abuse in a relationship, many would assume physical violence.
Domestic violence and relationship abuse are often cognitively associated with black eyes, broken bones, sexual assault, rape and even murder.
But what about the non-physical violence? Trauma, manipulation, control, emotional torture? A subtler, more insidious and ultimately easier to hide type of abuse?
….So if there are no bruises and no blood, how do you know if you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship?
Abuse is almost always power-related, but can start off so subtle that it might seem innocuous.
However, abuse can build up over time, so slowly that you wouldn’t even realise at first.
…. 1. Control
People dictating where their partners can and can’t go, and when, is exceptionally common, particularly in a family where children are involved and scheduling is critical.
However, when this behaviour becomes a method of policing your behaviour, this can slip into emotional abuse and control.
While communication of whereabouts is important, you must be free to make your own decision about where you can and can’t go.
….3. Put downs
All happy couples will mock each other occasionally, but when jokes or ‘helpful’ criticism and minor complaint stack up over time, it can start to feel hurtful.
The problem also arises when insults are disguised as jokes, so the victim is ‘not allowed’ to be angry or upset.
If you notice that you feel worse about yourself afterwards, then begin to reflect on how they speak to you and how often they try to put you down.
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The above page at Indy100 comes via an article at Psychology Today, located here.