Biblical Counselor Heath Lambert Believes that Publicizing Someone’s Unrepentant Sin Outweighs Keeping Their Counseling Information Confidential
Many Christians misuse the Bible – the Bible is not meant to be an exhaustive, end-all, be-all guide or rule book for Americans in the 21st century for every facet of life.
Thinking that it is leads to all sorts of harm to people, or potential harm.
As in the following example in the podcast linked to below.
One of the most painful things I had to learn the hard way – after my mother died – is that you cannot and should not blab your personal issues to just anyone, not even self-professing Christians, and expect to be treated kindly or with compassion.
My mother was my best friend. I followed advice I read in Christian and Non-Christian books and therefore reached out to people (mostly Christians) to tell them I could use their emotional support during my time of grief.
However, I largely did not receive emotional support from Christians I went to, when I divulged my personal business to them: no, I was shamed, victim-blamed, criticized, etc., and basically just told, in regards to my mother’s death and my resultant grief, to “just suck it up buttercup” and “get over it” (especially because children orphans in Africa have life much more worse than I do).
A lot of Christians suffer from mental health problems or personal issues and could use an empathetic shoulder to cry on.
I have already been burned by Christians I went to in my time of need.
I’ve since learned not to be too open with Christians, at least not in person.
I sure would not go to a “biblical counselor” such as Heath Lambert, knowing he is just sitting in judgement of me, should I confide in him in or out of a counseling session.
Tweeted by FBC Jax Watchdog (link):
If you’ve EVER thought to use
@acbc counseling, listen to this podcast and you’ll see why you should NEVER. @HeathLambert admits exposure of your “unrepentant sin” to the church for discipline supersedes your desire for confidentiality. Just WOW.
Under that main tweet, FBC Jax makes this comment to someone else:
But they absolutely could decide to pledge confidentiality, but they believe the Bible compels them to report sin to the pastors and church leaders so that “loving church discipline” can take place. Scary that folks actually view
@acbc “counselors” are an option.
FBC Jax Watchdog sub-tweeted this:
Dr. Heath Lambert discusses confidentiality in counseling on this week’s edition of Truth in Love. For more podcasts like this one, visit our podcast page.
On the podcast it is said (my para-phrase of some of its points)…
Confidentiality (in counseling) is important, is valuable, but is not at a premium.
There is a necessity of disclosure.
You know a “brother in Christ” has sin, but you don’t want to Gossip, so you approach the guy in private. If the guy listens to you, great, but if not, and he refuses to repent, take 2 or 3 witnesses with you – widen the circle of disclosure.
“Helping people is at a premium” – but not confidentiality in counseling.
Want personal info to stay as private as possible, but sometimes disclosing info to more people requires it (to help people).
This Lambert guy does not seem to understand that counseling is not the same thing as confronting sin.
Lambert says in the podcast he would not divulge your personal information to someone else to “hurt you,” but he would do so because he has your best interest at heart, so he believes blabbing your personal business to others is his duty to God.
I’m sorry, but that is not his call to make.
Legally, secular mental health professionals have to report certain things, like crimes, and if you tell them you’re planning on committing suicide, I believe (but am not sure – but see link and link) they have a right to enroll you in a facility without your permission.
Other than same very narrow situations, though, secular counselors are not ethically, or I believe legally, permitted to share the content of your private sessions with anyone.
Now that you know if you consult with Lambert, or with another biblical counselor of his ilk, that they are just going to blab your private information all over the place – and they are doing it to judge, condemn, and punish you – I say avoid them at all costs.
But, then, prior to hearing that podcast I already was aware that the primary goal of a biblical counselor is to victim-blame their patients, not help them or heal them.
Biblical counselors want to focus on your personal sin – if you come to them wanting to discuss your depression, sexual assault, or whatever – they always want to focus on YOU and how you are responsible for your sexual assault or depression, because it all supposedly goes back to your personal sin.
If you are someone going through a problem, avoid biblical counselors such as Heath Lambert or men who agree with him at all cost.
Dee at TWW blog says she will be doing a blog post about this podcast later this week. When or if she does so, I’d like to amend this post to add a link to her blog post.
I used to have clinical depression, suicidal ideation, and still deal with anxiety, and I have learned that most Christians and Christian material on these subjects is ineffective and victim-blaming, so I shun it all.
I am just stunned at how staggeringly un-loving the attitudes of biblical counselors are towards troubled people.
They, like a lot of Christians, are always sacrificing the needs, safety, and well-being of hurting people on the altar of their interpretations of the Bible. Doctrine and Biblicism always trumps how they treat people, and they have the audacity to think this is ultimately helpful for people or that it’s God-honoring. No, it’s not. It’s very twisted.
Heath Lambert’s biblical counseling views are appalling.