Signs You’re Sensitive (the HSP) Highly Sensitive Person
I was talking with a woman on a forum years ago who told me based upon some of my descriptions of myself that she believes I am an HSP. She told me to check out the website by an author who wrote a book about the topic.
Here below I am linking to an article about the topic.
I would agree that many of the things on the list are applicable to me. There are few things on the list that I think are only partially true to me or not true at all. (For example, I don’t think I am overly sensitive to caffeine, which is one of the items on the list.)
As to this item on the list: “6. You can read people really well.”
That would be true of me, but I’m not sure how much that is due to being HSP in my case, or the fact that my mother raised me to be codependent, so that my only permitted form of self-defense she gave me was avoidance.
I therefore learned to read people quickly from a very young age, so I could avoid bullies or abusers as much as I could.
I had no choice, because it was a form of self defense or self preservation, since Mom never allowed me to defend myself if someone got mean, rude, or abusive towards me. That “reading people quickly” was a necessary survival skill.
I think some of the qualities on this list goes hand- in- hand with my introverted nature, though the article below says that HSP and introversion are not one in the same.
I am not going to copy the entire page, so if you’d like to see the list in full, please click the link below:
People are different and react to things differently, internally and externally. Though some people never seem to be bothered or negatively affected by anything that happens or that people say to them, others have a much more difficult time doing that.
…”Different cultures have different views on sensitivity,” Bjelland [Julie Bjelland, LMFT , a psychotherapist and consultant] said. “Often in the United States, we don’t tend to value sensitivity as much as we should. So sensitive people feel misunderstood and undervalued and yet can contribute in incredibly important ways. This is an important trait of the species and offers many advantages.”
[Some of the signs of HSPs]:
3. You need lots of time to reflect by yourself.
6. You can read people really well.
“Increased capacity for empathy paired with heightened perception and awareness of subtleties allows HSPs to pick up on nonverbal cues and anticipate the needs of others which is a great asset in the workplace and in relationships with loved ones,” Snow said.
If you’re highly empathetic and can read what other might need, that too could be a sign that you’re more sensitive than other people.
8. Textures, scents, lights, and more all matter a lot.
It’s also not uncommon for those who are more highly-sensitive to be potentially bothered by some textures, scents, bright lights, loud noises, and more, which can affect the clothes that are most comfortable for them to wear or situations to be in.
“They may also have a greater sensitivity to clothing, label tags, zippers, or denim fabrics are some examples,” Odessky said.
9. You take more time to make a decision.