• Rob Delaney Wants To “Destigmatize Grief” By Opening Up About His First Christmas Since His Son Died by M. Blackmon – And: 2018 Examples of Grief

Rob Delaney Wants To “Destigmatize Grief” By Opening Up About His First Christmas Since His Son Died by M. Blackmon – And: 2018 Examples of Grief

The thing about grief is that it takes a lot of people two or more years to get through the passing of their loved one. Most Christians, though, act as though a person who experiences the death of a loved one should get over it instantly and do so in private (i.e., on their own, all alone).

There’s a complete ignorance, insensitivity, and impatience in how Christians handle someone they meet who is grieving.

I suppose that sometimes Non-Christians can be equally as terrible at dealing with grief, but it seems more common with Christians.

I think with the passing of time, that loss does get much easier to cope with, but one never stops missing their departed loved one, and the first few years after the death, particularly milestone dates, such as that person’s birthday, perhaps holidays, and so on, can be ten times more difficult to get through.

Notice how the people in the examples below are still emotional and upset about the passing of their loved one a year or more afterwards, and, it’s especially more difficult to cope with the death during holidays.

Most people simply do not get over and heal from the grief in a couple of weeks or months – most people will take YEARS to process, and to them come to terms with, a death in the family, which most Christians do not seem to grasp or acknowledge.

The Christian faith – prayer and Bible reading – may provide minimal comfort in the earliest stages of the grief, but after that, no, it won’t be of much help. (I may blog about that more in a future post.)

Rob Delaney Wants To “Destigmatize Grief” By Opening Up About His First Christmas Since His Son Died

“I just want other bereaved parents & siblings to feel seen/heard/respected/loved,” the Catastrophe star wrote on Twitter.

Comedian and actor Rob Delaney opened up on Wednesday about spending his first Christmas without his young son, Henry, who died in January.

“Our first Christmas without Henry came & went,” the Catastrophe star wrote on Twitter. “The day itself was okay, maybe because there were so many horrible, painful days leading up to it; we must have hit our quota or something. We talked about him a lot & included his memory throughout the day.”

Delaney told fans in February that his 2-year-old son had died in January from cancer after having a brain tumor removed. “Henry was a joy,” he wrote at the time. “He was smart, funny, and mischievous and we had so many wonderful adventures together, particularly after he’d moved home following fifteen months living in hospitals.”

Earlier this month, Delaney had revealed he had been dreading his first Christmas without his son.

…Delaney told fans he was open about his pain because he wanted to “destigmatize grief.”

“Tweets like this aren’t therapeutic to me, nor are they ‘updates,'” he wrote. “I just want other bereaved parents & siblings to feel seen/heard/respected/loved. And maybe they might help someone not schooled in grief support a friend better. I don’t know.”

Other cases of loss I saw go through my social media in late 2018:

Grandpa who lost wife before Christmas melts hearts worldwide meeting new puppy

Patrick O’Goan, 68, from Belfast – who also lost his Labrador dog several months ago – was presented with his new pet dog Buddy on Christmas Eve and the two immediately made a special connection

A grieving grandad who lost his wife of 50 years a month ago was given a puppy for Christmas – and the hearts of thousands across the globe have melted at his reaction.

Patrick O’Goan, 68, was presented with the dog Buddy on Christmas Eve by his granddaughter Sophie Roulston.

A video of Patrick meeting Buddy for the first time shows the precious moment when the little Labrador puppy brings new joy into the life of the recently bereaved widower.

…Patrick’s wife Marian passed away a month ago and they had been married for half a century.

…The touching video featuring the little pup’s first cuddle with his new owner has already been watched more than 700,000 times, with more than 500 people posting comments about the heart-warming story on Sophie’s Twitter channel.

Mom gifted teddy bear with dead son’s voice recording

Dec 26, 2018

“My little brother died in the beginning of October, for Christmas I got my parents a build a bear in a police uniform (he was a cop) with his voice,” Tanner’s sister Brittany wrote on Twitter.

Emotional video shows a mom hearing the voice of her late son, who was a police officer, through a teddy bear dressed in an officer’s uniform. Her daughter created the bear as a gift to her for Christmas, two months after her son’s passing – ABC News


More:

Regarding Grief, Sickness and Depression: Hold Your Tongue and Offer Your Heart Instead by Heather Plett

Practical Advice on How to Help A Depressed (Possibly Suicidal) Friend by C. Madden, PhD

Understanding Grief, by Jane E. Brody

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