Godly Men, Be Quiet By S. Krehbiel
….Patriarchal Christian masculinity is a powerful drug. It makes many church men believe that the world desperately needs their perspective on everything.
God is always calling these men to lead someone or something, even when what they know about that thing may be approximately two cents less than nothing.
Particularly in the evangelical world, the spiritual quality that seems to most define men like this is their ability to imagine that they hear God in the voice of their own ambition.
And then, inevitably, they start talking about healing, and positioning themselves as experts on how survivors should heal and need to heal. They cultivate suspiciously in-house quasi-professionals. They host high-profile healing services.
They issue “laments”; they pray lavishly, conspicuously.
The survivors who resist their leadership are labeled as pitiable victims who are resistant to healing.
They certainly won’t accept leadership from them. The leadership they *do* accept from survivors is entirely conditional and rarely attached to positions with lasting power.
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