I intend on following this post up with one to two more, (time permitting), explaining how, even when practiced correctly and “biblically,” Christian gender complementarianism is damaging to men and women. (Edit: see the bottom of this post for other posts on this blog I have since published about complementarianism vs codependency.)
Before I could tackle that subject, I felt it necessary to write what amounts to a prequel or two.
Hopefully, my prequels won’t be as bad as George Lucas’ The Phantom Menace, Attack of the Clones, or Revenge of the Sith. But you’re not having to pay several bucks to read this. It’s free. So you can look at it like that.
Even in my current waffling state on the faith, where I am in-between being a Christian and being agnostic (or maybe a deist), and have been that way the last two or more years, my sympathies on these issues (e.g., hermeneutics) are usually with the conservatives.
I am right- of- center on most political and social topics as well. I have never in my entire life been left wing.
Having said that, I do think that believers who are more liberal, or left of center, sometimes have valid points or criticisms regarding some conservative beliefs or conservative understandings of Scripture.
Where I admitted I am not currently a fully sold out, on-fire Christian is the point where many of your avid, conservative Christians will tune out anything I have to say from that point forward. They erroneously believe that only currently devout, completely, on- board Christians are qualified to understand or critique Christianity or various Christian beliefs.
The sad thing about this is not only does that tendency show narrow-mindedness, but you may be in danger of losing even more devout Christians to the ranks of quasi- agnostics to all-out atheists if you don’t listen to what I’m saying in posts like this one – because I am explaining some of the very things that caused me to doubt the faith.
(More and more Women Are Leaving the Church, by the way.)
I used to be a gender complementarian myself and was brought up by Christian parents who believed in traditional gender roles. I realized due to the Bible itself that gender complementarianism is false and therefore abandoned gender complementarianism sometime by my mid-30s.
IT’S NOT JUST ABSTRACT: IDEAS, DOCTRINES, AND THEOLOGY HAVE REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCES
A person’s interpretation of the Bible and choice of adherence to particular doctrines can have concrete fall out in one’s life – and in the lives of others, when or if one decides to promote one’s doctrinal beliefs to other Christians on television shows, at a church, on radio programs, podcasts, blogs, books, or other mediums.
Christians who are overly fond of sola scriptura – and hey, I do respect sola scriptura (but within limits; I refer you to this bible.org page as well as this Janet Mefferd podcast for views on that topic that mirror my own) – tend to go to absurd lengths in trying to diminish the truth that doctrine can negatively impact people’s lives.
The physical and emotional well-being of people take second place, among some Christians, to upholding sola scriptura, doctrine, defense of conservative biblical hermeneutics, and belief in biblical inerrancy at all cost.