• Examples of Girls and Women Being Assertive at Work, in Life, Women as Rescuers and Heroines

Examples of Girls and Women Being Assertive at Work, in Life, Women as Rescuers and Heroines

Complementarians such as John Piper do not feel that women should work as police officers. Some complementarians do not believe women should work in combat positions in the military.

So bizarre and unbiblical has contemporary complementarianism become in the last few years (they have a never-ending list of mishnah-like rules they believe women should follow), that even other complementarians started to sit up and take notice, such as in this post: An Accidental Feminist.

The occasional complementarian troll shows up at spiritual abuse blogs to insist all women are weaker or more inept than men and should therefore not be in positions of control, combat, or assertiveness.

These complementarians feel they are basing their beliefs on the Bible, but the Bible does not limit women in the fashion they do, or insist that all women every where for all time, are delicate flowers who cannot be rugged, tough, or assertive.

Deborah and Jael in the Old Testament were warriors – Deborah was a judge who also led Israel’s military, and Jael killed an enemy combatant.

For more on that, please see these off-site posts:

Deborah – Israel’s Only Female Judge Was Both Wise and Courageous

Deborah and the “No Available Men” Argument

Who Was the Judge of Israel, Deborah or Barak?

What About Deborah? 

Searching for Deborah

None of this is to say that men and women are completely identical or to deny that some biological differences do exist between the sexes. Most men have more upper body strength than most women, for example, but it does not follow from this that it is appropriate, fair, or right to prohibit women from working in certain capacities in secular careers or in the church.

As I told one complementarian troll, the world has moved on, no matter how much complementarians wish it were not so – women are permitted by secular society in nations such as the United States to serve in combat positions in the military or to work as police officers, regardless of what he or John Piper or other complementarians think.

I have never understood the complementarian push back regarding women serving in the military: “But are you really prepared to see caskets come back with American flags on them, knowing there is dead female military personnel inside?”

This question implies several sexist and disturbing things, one of them being, that somehow a female life is more valuable than that of a male, so I object to it on that ground, among others. I would not be more alarmed or more weepy seeing a flag-draped coffin knowing there is a female body inside vs. knowing there is a male body inside.

If a woman is qualified and interested in serving in some role (police, military, whatever it may be), she should be permitted to do so and encouraged by friends, family, community, and church to do so. There is no “biblical” reason which states or even implies that women should not work in “assertive” type roles, such as military or police.

What I see from complementarians on this point – their objection to women serving in combat – usually derives from cultural conditioning, their personal convictions, and is, I suspect, due to sheer sentimentality – not due to what the Bible actually says.

This is a post that I may add to in the future. If or when I come across new links pertaining to the topics at hand, I may edit this post to add new links.

The post is divided into these categories:

-WOMEN IN LAW ENFORCEMENT

-WOMEN WARRIORS / WOMEN IN THE MILITARY

-WOMEN PROTECTORS, HEROINES, RESCUERS

-OFF-SITE RESOURCES ADDRESSING THE ISSUES ADDRESSED ON THIS PAGE

ON YOU TUBE (watch videos of or about some of the women mentioned in this post)

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• Christian Gender Complementarianism is Christian-Endorsed Codependency for Women (And That’s Not A Good Thing)

I am a former gender complementarian. I described more of my journey out of complementarianism in other posts on this blog.

This is the third post on this blog in my series about Christian gender complementarianism and codependency. The last post explained, in a basic overview, what codependency is and how some Christians misunderstand it, or who actually believe that Christians should be kept in bondage to codependency, because these believers unfortunately think that codependency behavior is “biblical.”

In this post, I want to spell out a little more clearly how gender complementarianism is largely nothing but codependency for women with Bible verses sprinkled on top of it to make it appear as though being codependent is God’s design for women.

TL;DR

There is a table towards the bottom of this post with a side-by-side comparison of some of the major similarities between complementarianism and codependency, if you are in a hurry and don’t want to read this entire post.

REGARDING SIMILARITIES BETWEEN CHRISTIAN GENDER COMPLEMENTARIANISM AND CODEPENDENCY

Under Christian gender complementarian teachings, which I heard or saw role modeled by my parents (my mother especially), I also heard or saw codependent behavior for women advocated in Christian sermons, books, television shows, and printed magazine articles, and now, years later, I see it in a lot of Christian blogs.

As I noted earlier, the Bible shows that God condemns or frowns upon codependent behavior in followers of his, yet gender complementarianism (and its adherents) encourage women to practice these very behaviors that God dislikes.

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• Basic Overview of Codependency – And How Some Christians Misunderstand or Misrepresent Codependency

Christian gender complementarianism shares several of the same characteristics of codependency, so I wanted to write a post giving a basic overview of what codependency is.

I was diagnosed with clinical depression in adolescence by a psychiatrist. I had to see other psychiatrists and the occasional psychologist from the time I was a child and into my young adulthood for depression. I also had (and still have) anxiety and anxiety attacks.

In the years after my mother died – when the major portion of the grief had lifted – I began suspecting that something more than clinical depression had to be at the root of my issues, and it probably had something to do with how my parents raised me.

I got on the internet and started searching various terms and phrases, such as “too nice” and “are Christians supposed to be doormats.”

Through that searching, I initially found the book “No More Christian Nice Girl,” written by Christian authors Dr. Jennifer Degler and Paul Coughlin discussed on a few sites.

Free sample chapters of that book can be read here (all on Crosswalk’s site, Paul Coughlin’s blog):

Additional internet searching brought up the phrase “people pleasing,” and eventually “boundaries.”

After even more extensive internet sleuthing, I found the term “codependency.” The word and concept of codependency described in full all the other terms and behaviors I had been reading about.

I than began reading up on these subjects.

As I was reading the characteristics and descriptions of codependency, I was astounded at how similar they were to Christian gender complementarianism, especially as it is tailored to “biblical womanhood” (or, to put it another way, the teachings gender complementarians insist are God’s design, intent, or role for women).

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• Doctrines, Theological Views, and Biblical Hermeneutics Have Real-Life Consequences – Personal Experience Vs. Sola Scriptura

I intend on following this post up with one to two more, (time permitting), explaining how, even when practiced correctly and “biblically,” Christian gender complementarianism is damaging to men and women. (Edit: see the bottom of this post for other posts on this blog I have since published about complementarianism vs codependency.)

Before I could tackle that subject, I felt it necessary to write what amounts to a prequel or two.

Hopefully, my prequels won’t be as bad as George Lucas’ The Phantom Menace, Attack of the Clones, or Revenge of the Sith. But you’re not having to pay several bucks to read this. It’s free. So you can look at it like that.

Even in my current waffling state on the faith, where I am in-between being a Christian and being agnostic (or maybe a deist), and have been that way the last two or more years, my sympathies on these issues (e.g., hermeneutics) are usually with the conservatives.

I am right- of- center on most political and social topics as well. I have never in my entire life been left wing.

Having said that, I do think that believers who are more liberal, or left of center, sometimes have valid points or criticisms regarding some conservative beliefs or conservative understandings of Scripture.

Where I admitted I am not currently a fully sold out, on-fire Christian is the point where many of your avid, conservative Christians will tune out anything I have to say from that point forward. They erroneously believe that only currently devout, completely, on- board Christians are qualified to understand or critique Christianity or various Christian beliefs.

The sad thing about this is not only does that tendency show narrow-mindedness, but you may be in danger of losing even more devout Christians to the ranks of quasi- agnostics to all-out atheists if you don’t listen to what I’m saying in posts like this one – because I am explaining some of the very things that caused me to doubt the faith.

(More and more Women Are Leaving the Church, by the way.)

I used to be a gender complementarian myself and was brought up by Christian parents who believed in traditional gender roles. I realized due to the Bible itself that gender complementarianism is false and therefore abandoned gender complementarianism sometime by my mid-30s.

IT’S NOT JUST ABSTRACT: IDEAS, DOCTRINES, AND THEOLOGY  HAVE REAL LIFE CONSEQUENCES

A person’s interpretation of the Bible and choice of adherence to particular doctrines can have concrete fall out in one’s life – and in the lives of others, when or if one decides to promote one’s doctrinal beliefs to other Christians on television shows, at a church, on radio programs, podcasts, blogs, books, or other mediums.

Christians who are overly fond of sola scriptura – and hey, I do respect sola scriptura (but within limits; I refer you to this bible.org page as well as this Janet Mefferd podcast for views on that topic that mirror my own) – tend to go to absurd lengths in trying to diminish the truth that doctrine can negatively impact people’s lives.

The physical and emotional well-being of people take second place, among some Christians, to upholding sola scriptura, doctrine, defense of conservative biblical hermeneutics, and belief in biblical inerrancy at all cost.

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• Ken Ham Unequivocally States on TV Program that a Belief in YEC is NOT Necessary to Be a Christian

On an episode of the Christian program It is Written,  broadcast on August 31, 2014 on American TBN network,  YEC (Young Earth Creationist) Ken Ham was asked by the host in an interview if belief in YEC is necessary to be a Christian, and he said NO.

Ham clearly stated that belief in YEC is NOT necessary to be Christian, to be saved. He said he knows many Christians believe in things such as theistic evolution, and he believes that they are saved.

Ham said his concern with the current generation of Christians rejecting YEC views is that it may cause future generations to doubt the Bible.

From the It is Written site (link to home page),

Creation or Evolution?
Many people today believe that overwhelming evidence supports the theory of evolution. They accept that their ancestors looked like apes. Can Bible believers confidently believe in the Creation story? Join John Bradshaw as he visits with Ken Ham, president of the Creation Museum.

You might be able to watch the Ken Ham interview at the link below (I saw the interview on television; it was televised Aug 31, 2014. I have not had time to watch this particular online video but assume it is the same interview that was aired on the show, but I may be incorrect):

Link, Creation video / Ken Ham Interview

Creation or Evolution? / 2014-08-31 | PRODUCTION #: 001327

Many people today believe that overwhelming evidence supports the theory of evolution. They accept that their ancestors looked like apes. Can Bible believers confidently believe in the Creation story? Join John Bradshaw as he visits with Ken Ham, president of the Creation Museum.

“It Is Written” television program has a You Tube account (link, It is Written on You Tube). As of today, I do not see a copy of the Aug. 31, 2014 Ken Ham episode on You Tube.

A PDF form of the show is available here (it is a transcript of the Ham interview):

Link, PDF transcript of Aug 31, 2014 Creation/Ham show

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