• Why Christians Can Do Better Than The “Billy Graham Rule” by T. Osterhouse

Why Christians Can Do Better Than The “Billy Graham Rule” by T. Osterhouse

Quote from the essay:

“The ‘Billy Graham Rule’ is well-intended, but it doesn’t address the heart issue of sexual sin & sexual abuse. It shifts the blame, reducing women to temptresses or objects. Women become the problem and men are safer without them.”

More (by T. Osterhouse):

…I understand the temptation to draw a line in the sand—anything to protect from doing something wrong in a vulnerable moment. Many also argue that the rule protects from even the appearance of evil, especially for people in high-profile ministry positions.

I believe that Graham’s rule is well-intended, but it does not address the heart-level issue of sexual sin or sexual abuse. It merely shifts the blame, reducing women to temptresses or objects. Women become the problem and men are safer without them. Consequently, men are excused from wrestling with and overcoming their own sin.

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• Pastors in Drag, Russell Moore, & Biblical Manhood: The Fruit Test from Tic Toc Ministries

It’s been quite some time since I last visited the site I am linking you to here. I don’t remember all of the blogger’s positions on every subject, so a link to this post of theirs below is not necessarily an endorsement of all views on their blog.

I don’t  agree totally with every single point the author makes in the following post, but she makes many great points demonstrating how flawed Christian gender complementarianism is:

Pastors in Drag, Russell Moore, & Biblical Manhood: The Fruit Test from Tic Toc Ministries

Snippets:

BY M. DENNINGTON

Complementarians want to tell you how to be a real man…and now, it’s getting personal.

These experts on “Biblical Manhood” are questioning yours – even if you say you agree with them.

Today Jesus is going to give you a simple test to find out if these are leaders you should follow.

Are these men Biblical examples of “real manhood”?

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• Friendship as a Foundation: Moving Beyond Bill Hybels and Anxious Egalitarianism Pt 2 by Dan Brennan

The following article by Mr. Brennan also discusses the sexist, ridiculous, anti-singles, ineffective, Billy Graham Rule (aka the “Mike Pence” rule):

Friendship as a Foundation: Moving Beyond Bill Hybels and Anxious Egalitarianism Pt 2

Snippets:

…Three weeks ago, virtually any red-blooded American egalitarian would have ascribed so much “power” to what they thought was a “healthy” egalitarian model led by Hybels [Hybels is now in trouble for allegedly acting inappropriately towards women who worked with him at his church].

Now we know, with all this stuff coming out—there was a lot of psychological social sexist ministry happening under his leadership that was happening underneath the surface egalitarianism.

… One of the biggest reasons we are here is that Willow Creek egalitarianism never took a woman’s intimate personal power in friendship, seriously.

… Before #MeToo, both complementarians and egalitarians paid lip service to women’s intimate personal power in non-romantic relationships.

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• Correlation Between Domestic Violence and Calvinism (from Jesus Creed blog)

Calvinism And Domestic Violence

Snippet from that page:

Psychology of Religion and Spirituality Religious Beliefs and Domestic Violence Myths by, Peter J. Jankowski, Steven J. Sandage, Miriam Whitney Cornell, Cheryl Bissonette, Andy J. Johnson, Sarah A. Crabtree, and Mary L. Jensen

I reformat the abstract, and state what I have often said here: Calvinism is not the cause of these things but there is, according to this study, a correlation between Calvinism and domestic violence.

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• Brain Injury And Phineas Gage

I had to read about Phineas Gage when I was in college – I believe I had to read about him in a psychology class I took.

After a metal rod went through his head, Gage’s personality was drastically altered (according to what I read in college).

One of a few reasons I find this an interesting story is that so many Christians give horrible advice to anyone who is suffering from a mental health disorder, that if they just pray hard enough, have enough faith, trust Jesus, or attend church weekly, that they will be healed of their mental health problems.

I wonder how such Christians would deal with Gage’s story? I doubt that his condition could’ve been changed from church attendance or Bible reading. Personal sin did not cause his issues.

Phineas Gage and the effect of an iron bar through the head on personality

The extraordinary case of Phineas Gage has been used and abused by neurologists and even the occasional creationist. Mo Costandi summarises what we know, and what we don’t

Phineas Gage – on Wikipedia

Phineas P. Gage (1823–1860) was an American railroad construction foreman remembered for his improbable[B1]:19 survival of an accident in which a large iron rod was driven completely through his head, destroying much of his brain’s left frontal lobe, and for that injury’s reported effects on his personality and behavior over the remaining 12 years of his life‍—‌effects sufficiently profound (for a time at least) that friends saw him as “no longer Gage”. [H]:14

…Phineas Gage influenced 19-century discussion about the mind and brain, par­tic­u­larly debate on cerebral local­i­za­tion, ​​[M]:ch7-9[B] and was perhaps the first case to suggest the brain’s role in deter­min­ing per­son­al­ity, and that damage to specific parts of the brain might induce specific per­son­al­ity changes.

Photo slide: View drawing of Gage’s brain trauma, with notations

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• Abuse Survivor Blogs and Others Covering Horrible Christian Teachings and Counseling Methods Regarding Mental Health

I made a post on here a year or more ago where I expressed that I hoped that more Christian sites and blogs would cover mental health issues more often.

Farther below, you’ll see a set of links to other sites that have been discussing mental health in a Christian context. I may amend this post in the future to add more if I find them, unless I decide to make a new, separate post, that is.

There are many Christians who have mental health problems. (The number of all Americans generally, regardless of religious affiliation, appears to be on the increase; this is from 2018: Americans are more depressed and miserable than ever)

For years, I had clinical depression, and I still deal with anxiety. Neither the secular or Christian methods alleviated my depression or anxiety.

The Christian approaches to mental health I encountered amounted to “spiritual only” solutions, such as read the Bible daily, trust God, and pray to Jesus. None of those things worked for me.

Some Christian sources were also very victim-blaming, int hat they suggest things that if you have a mental health problem, it’s due to a personal sin, so that you brought it on yourself.

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• Posts About Domestic Violence at Cry For Justice Blog in the ‘Don Hennessy Digest’ Series

Posts About Domestic Violence at Cry For Justice Blog in the ‘Don Hennessy Digest’ Series

The Christian blog ‘A Cry For Justice’ began work on a series of posts about domestic violence by author Don Hennessy.

I wish to comment on this material in a future post (that post is now complete and can be found here: ACFJ Blog’s Hennessy Domestic Violence Series: Yes, Codependency Makes An Appearance).

I will be referring to the links below when or if commenting in future posts.

For now, here are links to the content at ACFJ blog:

Don Hennessy Digest – index page with links to the blog series, such as

(Link): 1   Don Hennessy says domestic abusers are like pedophiles – and there’s not much proof they’re redeemable.

(Link): 2   “How He Gets Into Her Head” — an introduction to Don Hennessy’s book

(Link): 3   How the male intimate abuser selects, sets-up & grooms a target woman

(Link): 4   The male domestic abuser is as ‘psychephile’ — a sexual offender

5   Offending and re-grooming: the skills men use to abuse their female partners

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