How to Be Assertive – Even When You’re Constantly Talked Over by M. Welding
Unfortunately, a lot of women don’t learn the assertiveness skills this article is addressing, especially not women who were (as I was) raised under Christian gender complementarianism.
Complementarianism fosters codependency mindsets and behaviors in Christian girls and women, and unfortunately tells them such passive behaviors are godly, desirable, God’s design, good, right, and feminine.
These teachings actually handicap girls and women through their lives.
Such teachings convey the message to girls and women that they should be conflict avoidant, which does them no favor, because as you get older and go through life, there will be situations when you have no choice but to deal with rude, mean, or abusive bosses, co-workers, boyfriends, etc.
Complementarianism, and similar secular belief sets taught to girls, does not adequately prepare them for adulthood.
Notice, by the way, that the solutions presented in the article (a few of which I’ve copied to my blog below) do NOT rely on the “male headship” complementarian belief, where the man gets “final say so” in a dispute merely just due to the fact he has a penis (that he’s a man).
Two adults in a dispute can compromise with one another, or find another solution that does not involve one person automatically caving in to another based on biological sex.
How to Be Assertive – Even When You’re Constantly Talked Over – by M. Welding
Some snippets from that page:
Aggressive people are hostile, adopting the “my way or the highway” stance. Passive people give up their power and are easily taken advantage of, which creates a surefire recipe for burnout and resentment.
You want to be the happy medium—an assertive person.