‘My Therapist Won’t Let Me Break Up With Her!’ By Lori Gottlieb
Full codependency on display here (referencing a link, with excerpts from said link, much farther below).
A woman writes into an advice columnist asking if it would be acceptable to quit seeing her therapist, and, if so, how to go about it.
This woman, who is an adult (she says she’s in her late 20s), is too afraid, or feels too much guilt, to stop seeing her therapist.
She says her therapist won’t give her permission to stop going in for sessions.
The woman says her insurance no longer pays for therapy sessions, and the therapist refuses to reduce her prices.
The woman cannot financially afford to see this therapist, but the therapist keeps shaming, guilt tripping, and pressuring this woman to continue on, in spite of this.
So the woman writes into this advice columnist for input on what to do.
It’s clear to me that this woman patient suffers from a huge case of Codependency. She obviously does not understand she is in a voluntary relationship with this therapist, one she has been paying for, and that her doctor (the therapist) is taking advantage of her financially and emotionally.
This woman is being manipulated and is too naive or too afraid to see it or admit it to herself and stand up to the therapist.
It’s further obvious to me that the woman patient who wrote to this columnist has no concept of having boundaries, does not feel comfortable saying “no” and being assertive.