• Southern Baptists Are Having To Defend Themselves Against the Accusation That They’re Becoming Feminists

Southern Baptists Are Having To Defend Themselves Against the Accusation That They’re Becoming Feminists

One of the mis-givings I have with being a conservative is sitting back and watching other conservatives automatically reject any and all grievances raised by secular or Christian feminists (and doing so without honestly weighing if the feminist points have merit or not), or to associate seeking justice and equality for women with extreme, militant feminism, and therefore rejecting it out-right.

There is nothing anti- conservative, or un-biblical, with conservatives, Republicans, Christians, or with anyone, noticing that sexism exists and seeking to rectify the situation and to ensure that girls and women are treated with respect, and given equality of opportunity.

The Southern Baptists Dumped a Predator or Two, but Let’s Hold Off on the F-word

Jul 16, 2018, 1:54pm Anne Linstatter

The #metoo and #churchtoo movements have put SBC leaders on the defensive, as earlier revelations of widespread child sexual abuse by priests did to the all-male Roman Catholic hierarchy. Yet both groups continue to deny that there could be any connection between all-male power and the sexual abuse of women and children.

What a hoot! Southern Baptists are having to defend themselves against the accusation that they’re becoming feminists.

What have they done to deserve this F-word? They’ve kicked out the president of a seminary for counseling victims of domestic violence to keep quiet, and for telling at least one rape victim to forgive her assailant and not report to police. They dethroned a few other predator pastors and confessed to past failures to protect the weak.

This counts as feminism?

I’d simply call it justice regardless of gender—which, by the way, actually is the definition of feminism.

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• Traditional Gender Roles Associated with Domestic Abuse – Gender Complementarianism Is Not Counter-Cultural

Traditional Gender Roles Associated with Domestic Abuse – Gender Complementarianism Is Not Counter-Cultural

There are secular articles and studies pointing out that in secular culture, acceptance or agreement with traditional gender roles is associated with domestic abuse.

Christian gender complementarians sometimes peddle their views about women and gender roles by insisting that complementarianism is “counter cultural.”

Christian complementarians seem to think that the entire culture completely buys into secular, liberal feminism – which it does not – and they seem to feel that they are standing alone to defend people or culture against feminism.

Complementarianism, which believes in traditional gender roles, mirrors secular culture on some points; it does not stand in distinction or opposition to it, despite the many complementarian books, sermons, and blog posts to the contrary.

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• This Is Not About All Men. Don’t Make It About You.

This Is Not About All Men. Don’t Make It About You.

I’ve noticed any time a woman (or women collectively) step forward to openly discuss their struggles – especially against “male on female” sexism – immediately, many men, or their female anti-feminists allies, hop into “defense mode” to either insist loudly and often that “not all men” are sexists (or are not sexual abusers), or, they like to try to derail a topic by arguing that (some) women are just as bad as men.

It’s repulsive to me that even situations that are of concern to women, that largely impact women more harshly, more often, or more severely than men, are always distorted and twisted to be turned into how these topics affect men.

Because as a society, I suppose we’re all supposed to care far, far more about men and the needs and feelings and jobs of men – than we are of women and women’s jobs, feelings, and needs.

I quite frankly do not care how the “Me Too” movement, or other women-centric causes, impact men, negatively or otherwise.

My level of concern is about confined only to the area that men who are currently sexist, or who sit around denying how rampant sexism is, will have their eyes opened to how common-place sexism is, even in a wonderful nation such as the United States.

Talkback caller’s heartfelt poem about violence against women resonates with listeners

by Nicole Mills

[Below audio sample on the page:

“Do not usurp my story / don’t tell me what to do / This is not about all men / Don’t make it about you”

Carmel shared this powerful poem about violence against women. Turn your sound on and take a moment for this.]

… But one caller to ABC Radio Melbourne has done an amazing job of uniting a huge number of women and men, who agreed her poem about society’s response to violence against women summed up their own feelings.

Carmel is a psychologist who works in the domestic violence field. She said she was fascinated by how “good, decent men often jump in to defend men, rather than listen to what women are saying”.

(By Carmel):

When I say I’m afraid of men who mean me harm,

You tell me not to make a fuss, there’s no need for alarm.

That not all men are like that, not to stress my pretty head,

Or talk about those other men just look at you instead.

But what of women suffering, a slap, a punch, a shove,

A life of menacing oppression from a man they love.

Not all men are sexist, not all men disrespect,

Not all men are the man who harms what he should protect.

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• Women Saw #MeToo Coming 100 Years Ago. When Will We Listen? by K. K. DuMez

Women Saw #MeToo Coming 100 Years Ago. When Will We Listen?

In the course of this work, [Christian author] Bushnell was startled to discover that it was often Christian men who were guilty of perpetrating horrific violence against women.

Equally troubling, she discovered that “respectable” Christian men and women all too frequently condoned that violence, blaming the victim or simply looking the other way.

… Bushnell was ultimately compelled to ask: Is Christian theology to blame?

Searching the Scriptures, she was drawn to passages supporting traditional notions of male headship.

… what puzzled Bushnell was that men who purported to follow Christ—the incarnate God who emptied himself and submitted to death on a cross—did so by claiming power over women.

As she understood the gospel message, only a sinner would wish “to exalt himself and have dominion over others”—and he would do so “in exact proportion to the degree of selfishness in his heart.”

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• If Anyone Can Abuse, Why Are We Still Talking Gender Roles? by Tim Kruger

If Anyone Can Abuse, Why Are We Still Talking Gender Roles? by Tim Kruger

Snippets:

Over the last year, many of us have watched in dismay as the #MeToo and #ChurchToo campaigns have exposed the sexual harassment and assault rampant in our society. Evangelicals have been quick to denounce men like Harvey Weinstein and Larry Nassar, but the stream of revelations against pastors has been harder to swallow.

As Christian leaders wrestle with how we got here and what to do now, views on gender have taken center stage. Egalitarians and complementarians alike have been quick to argue that their own view protects women while the opposing view endangers women.

… It’s true that men harass and abuse women regardless of gender theology. The abuse epidemic transcends the gender debate, but we’re fooling ourselves if we think our gender theology is irrelevant.

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• Why Gender Complementarianism Contributes to Sexism and Abuse of Women and is Ineffective at Halting It

Why Gender Complementarianism Contributes to Sexism and Abuse of Women and is Ineffective at Halting It

A lot of “kind” complementarian Christian men, ones who do not abuse their wives, have a very difficult time comprehending how it is some (like me) can say complementarianism is abusive or sexist, when, these men say, they have never, nor would they ever, physically abuse their wives or rape little girls.

First of all, abuse (and sexism) comes in different flavors and forms.

Not all abuse or all bad consequences of a belief set manifests itself in sexual or physical assault. That is a topic I’ve discussed in other blog posts about complementarianism and its negative ramifications, so I won’t belabor it here.

Some types of abuse or sexism are more obvious to the eye than other types.

Complementarians are also obsessed with marriage and motherhood, which ends up marginalizing childless, child-free, divorced, never-married and widowed women.

Complementarians fixate upon battling liberal cultural wars, so they will utilize their peculiar gender role theology as a means of fighting things they dislike, view as threats, or disagree with, such as transgenderism, abortion, women holding careers outside of the home, and so on.

But those are topics for other posts.

One of the other main concerns with complementarianism, the one with which I want to discuss in this post, pertains to convincing Christian women that it is in their best interest to willingly roll over and concede power, control, and authority to the men in their lives, everyone from their husbands (if they are married), to their male pastor, to male co-workers, and that this is all, supposedly, totally biblical and God’s intent. This teaching and focus is not going to do any good at fighting abuse of girls and women, but will actually enable or else actually exacerbate it.

Complementarian adherents are concerned with male hierarchy and female subordination. They are fixated, and to an abnormal degree I’d add, with the topic of “gender roles” and who gets to do what, according to biological sex.

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• The Global Scourge of Violence Against Women

Christian gender complementarianism plays a part in the oppression of women, even in the United States.

The Global Scourge of Violence Against Women

As a theologian and sociologist, Elaine Storkey has documented how women are abused, exploited, and killed across the globe.

…. [CT’s interview with Elaine Storkey]:

Take us through some of the main ways that women around the world are targeted for violence.

It starts in the womb, in places like India and China, where boys are valued more than girls for reasons of religion, family, and economics. This leads to girls being aborted at alarming rates.

In other countries, we see the practice of female genital mutilation to assure sexual purity for marriage. The next horror I found was child marriage: little girls violated by their husbands, losing everything, their education, and their independence.

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