• Act Normal: Memoir of a Stumbling Block by K. Burmeister

Act Normal: Memoir of a Stumbling Block by K. Burmeister

Act Normal: Memoir of a Stumbling Block

A horrifying and hopeful true story that holds Christian culture accountable for the ways it objectifies, vilifies, and sacrifices its daughters.

…. Not merely a thriller about being stalked, Act Normal raises important questions on the church, feminine sexuality—and most challengingly, how to be a peacemaker in a violent world when it comes at great cost.

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• Article by H. Farrell that Muses About the Possible Reasons For The Extreme Push Back Against Equality and Feminism, Particularly by Conservative Men

Article by H. Farrell that Muses About the Possible Reasons For The Extreme Push Back Against Equality and Feminism, Particularly by Conservative Men

I believe the following is also applicable to many conservative Christians and most Christian Gender Complementarians (with emphasis added by me at various points):

The “Intellectual Dark Web,” explained: what Jordan Peterson has in common with the alt-right

Snippets:

Bari Weiss, an opinion writer and editor at the New York Times, created a stir this week with a long article on a group that calls itself the “Intellectual Dark Web.”

The coinage referred to a loose collective of intellectuals and media personalities who believe they are “locked out” of mainstream media, in Weiss’s words, and who are building their own ways to communicate with readers.

…The truth is rather that dark web intellectuals, like Donald Trump supporters and the online alt-right, have experienced a sharp decline in their relative status over time. This is leading them to frustration and resentment.

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• Sexism Causes DEPRESSION: Playboys Who Want Power Over Women Have Worse Mental Health, Large (2016) Study Reveals

Sexism Causes DEPRESSION: Playboys Who Want Power Over Women Have Worse Mental Health, Large (2016) Study Reveals

Sexism Causes DEPRESSION: Playboys Who Want Power Over Women Have Worse Mental Health, Large (2016) Study Reveals

  • Study found three traditionally sexist attitudes cause poor mental health – playboy attitude, being self-reliant, and wanting power over women
  • Men with these attitudes more likely to develop depression, study said
  • But these men were also less likely to seek mental health treatment

By Mia De Graaf For Dailymail.com

21 November 2016

Sexism is bad for men’s mental health, new research reveals.

Scientists studied 20,000 men, analyzing how strongly they conformed to 11 typical ideas of masculinity.

They found that men who wanted power over women and had a ‘playboy attitude’, were significantly more depressed than others.

Those men were also less likely to seek mental health treatment.

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• Conservatives Are Wrong to Dismiss Feminism by S. Quinlan

I am a conservative who has been saying much of the same things this author says in this editorial (below). Too many other conservatives automatically discredit any and all arguments or concerns of feminists, in part because they wrongly conflate feminism with liberalism.

Even if it were true that all feminists are liberals (which is not the case), it does not stand that every point they raise is wrong.

I’ve also noticed for a long time now that a lot of conservatives misunderstand some of the terms or concepts feminists discuss.

I agree with about 99% of the following piece by S. Quinlan; there may be one or two points I do not fully agree with, however.

I was a lifelong Republican until a few years ago. I left the Republican party for several reasons, one of which is I do see double standards – Republicans really do not respect women; a lot of conservative men really are sexist (as are some of the women on the right, who at times pen editorials denying the barriers their own biological sex face).

I, however, cannot join the left or the Democratic Party, because they also adhere to sexist double standards, as well.

Conservatives Are Wrong to Dismiss Feminism

Snippets:

by S. Quinlan

Today’s feminists have some valid concerns, and those on the right would benefit from listening.

Last week, Representative Martha McSally (R., Ariz.) revealed that she had been sexually abused in high school by a coach. Her #MeToo story is a reminder that conservatism cannot afford to dismiss the modern feminist movement.

In the six months since the #MeToo movement began, conservatives have, at times rightly, questioned or criticized some aspects of it. But too often they have wrongly downplayed, ignored, or completely dismissed the impetus of the movement.

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• It’s Not Billy Graham Rule or Bust by T. H. Warren

It’s Not Billy Graham Rule or Bust by T. H. Warren

Snippets:

15 ways my husband and I guard our marriage while still loving our friends of the opposite sex.

by TISH HARRISON WARREN

With recent allegations of indiscretion against a prominent megachurch pastor, some Christian leaders have doubled down on the so-called Billy Graham Rule, which dictates that men and women should never meet alone.

 Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary president Danny Akin tweeted, “A valuable lesson we all can learn from this tragic situation: follow the @BillyGraham rule. If you are married, never be alone with someone of the opposite sex who is not your spouse. Never!”

This rule, in its most pristine form, renders male-female friendships impossible. However unintentionally, it communicates to women that they are fundamentally dangerous. And it bars men from meaningful mentorship or pastoral care of women and vice-versa.

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• The Importance of Showing Girls It’s OK to Fail

The Importance of Showing Girls It’s OK to Fail

The Importance of Showing Girls It’s OK to Fail

by Cristal Glangchai

 April 26, 2018

…However, our culture encourages men to ignore their inner feelings of unworthiness and keep pushing their way to the top.

…In other words, men are trained to “fake it till they make it,” while women learn instead to listen to the whispering voice of doubt … which leads them, all too often, to withdraw from the competitive battle.

Many ambitious, high-achieving girls have been raised to judge themselves by unrealistic standards, regarding anything short of perfection as inadequate and shameful.

And ironically, the more successful some young women seem to be—as measured by high test scores, good grades, an attractive appearance, athletic skill, popularity—the more dangerous the drive for perfection can be.

This drive can lead to the impostor syndrome, a pervasive feeling that, no matter how much you may have achieved, you are really a fraud and a failure whose shortcomings are sure to be exposed someday.

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• Why Christians Can Do Better Than The “Billy Graham Rule” by T. Osterhouse

Why Christians Can Do Better Than The “Billy Graham Rule” by T. Osterhouse

Quote from the essay:

“The ‘Billy Graham Rule’ is well-intended, but it doesn’t address the heart issue of sexual sin & sexual abuse. It shifts the blame, reducing women to temptresses or objects. Women become the problem and men are safer without them.”

More (by T. Osterhouse):

…I understand the temptation to draw a line in the sand—anything to protect from doing something wrong in a vulnerable moment. Many also argue that the rule protects from even the appearance of evil, especially for people in high-profile ministry positions.

I believe that Graham’s rule is well-intended, but it does not address the heart-level issue of sexual sin or sexual abuse. It merely shifts the blame, reducing women to temptresses or objects. Women become the problem and men are safer without them. Consequently, men are excused from wrestling with and overcoming their own sin.

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