This Is Not About All Men. Don’t Make It About You.
I’ve noticed any time a woman (or women collectively) step forward to openly discuss their struggles – especially against “male on female” sexism – immediately, many men, or their female anti-feminists allies, hop into “defense mode” to either insist loudly and often that “not all men” are sexists (or are not sexual abusers), or, they like to try to derail a topic by arguing that (some) women are just as bad as men.
It’s repulsive to me that even situations that are of concern to women, that largely impact women more harshly, more often, or more severely than men, are always distorted and twisted to be turned into how these topics affect men.
Because as a society, I suppose we’re all supposed to care far, far more about men and the needs and feelings and jobs of men – than we are of women and women’s jobs, feelings, and needs.
I quite frankly do not care how the “Me Too” movement, or other women-centric causes, impact men, negatively or otherwise.
My level of concern is about confined only to the area that men who are currently sexist, or who sit around denying how rampant sexism is, will have their eyes opened to how common-place sexism is, even in a wonderful nation such as the United States.
by Nicole Mills
[Below audio sample on the page:
“Do not usurp my story / don’t tell me what to do / This is not about all men / Don’t make it about you”
Carmel shared this powerful poem about violence against women. Turn your sound on and take a moment for this.]
… But one caller to ABC Radio Melbourne has done an amazing job of uniting a huge number of women and men, who agreed her poem about society’s response to violence against women summed up their own feelings.
Carmel is a psychologist who works in the domestic violence field. She said she was fascinated by how “good, decent men often jump in to defend men, rather than listen to what women are saying”.
When I say I’m afraid of men who mean me harm,
You tell me not to make a fuss, there’s no need for alarm.
That not all men are like that, not to stress my pretty head,
Or talk about those other men just look at you instead.
But what of women suffering, a slap, a punch, a shove,
A life of menacing oppression from a man they love.
Not all men are sexist, not all men disrespect,
Not all men are the man who harms what he should protect.