Why Complementarian Women Are Complementarian – And: When Women Enforce Complementarianism
There are several reasons why a Christian woman might become a complementarian.
I will present a link much farther below (from Cult News site) that discusses how and why some Christian women pressure other Christian women to conform to sexist complementarian teachings.
I am an ex-complementarian.
Some women, such as myself, were born into complementarianism.
I was brought up in a Christian family that attended Southern Baptist churches, Southern Baptist churches endorse complementarianism, and my mother was always bringing in Christian-based magazines and other literature into the home, which stressed very traditional gender roles.
(When I was a kid growing up Southern Baptist, I don’t recall the Southern Baptists of the 1970s, or even the 1980s, being as nearly obsessed and insistent upon traditional gender roles as they started to become in the 1990s and later.)
If you become a Christian, and you love God, and you believe that God is your BFF (your bestie), you naturally want to live in such a way that is pleasing to God.
Your church and your parents are telling you that complementarianism is pleasing to God.
Furthermore, complementarianism is conflated with codependent attitudes and behavior by its adherents.
When you are a complementarian, you are taught by complementarians that your only alternative to complementarianism is to become an evil, icky, un-biblical, liberal secular feminist.