• The Pain Wrought by Complementarian Theology by Elesha Coffman

The Pain Wrought by Complementarian Theology by Elesha Coffman

Yes, complementarian theology has real-life, usually negative, consequences upon the lives of girls and women, but do complementarians care? Nope.

Defending their particular interpretation of the Bible – which entails complementarianism – takes precedence over the welfare of actual people.

The Pain Wrought by Complementarian Theology


First off, let me say that I agree with everything Emily Hunter McGowin wrote about the gas-lighting of evangelical women long before, and far beyond, what has recently been exposed about Paige Patterson and the Southern Baptist Convention.

I heard all of the same messages she did as I grew up in evangelical churches, conditioning me to believe that it was my constant responsibility to manage men’s sexual temptation while deferring to their authority.

The specific contours of evangelical gender ideology, especially as defined by the Religious Right from the 1970s onward, place crushing burdens on women. I ultimately had to leave evangelicalism in order not to lose my faith and my sanity.

But it’s not just evangelicalism.

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• The Global Scourge of Violence Against Women

Christian gender complementarianism plays a part in the oppression of women, even in the United States.

The Global Scourge of Violence Against Women

As a theologian and sociologist, Elaine Storkey has documented how women are abused, exploited, and killed across the globe.

…. [CT’s interview with Elaine Storkey]:

Take us through some of the main ways that women around the world are targeted for violence.

It starts in the womb, in places like India and China, where boys are valued more than girls for reasons of religion, family, and economics. This leads to girls being aborted at alarming rates.

In other countries, we see the practice of female genital mutilation to assure sexual purity for marriage. The next horror I found was child marriage: little girls violated by their husbands, losing everything, their education, and their independence.

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• Complementarians Define Their Position By What They’re Against, Not So Much by What They Are For – and The Rotten Fruit of Complementarianism

Complementarianism is not only codependency dressed up in Bible verses, but, as I was just pointing out on another blog, complementarians seem to focus more on what girls and women cannot and should not be doing, as opposed to building up the female sex and telling us positive things.

As I put it at the other site:

At the Southern Baptist “Biblical Womanhood” site, under the “Resources” page
are these links:

-Anchored Against the Tide Female Pastors in the SBC by Katie McCoy

-Paula the Elder: A Glimpse into the Life of a Woman Educator and Scholar in order to Rescue History from Feminist Revisionism by Candi Finch

-Should Women Serve as Pastors? by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

You can see what their concerns are.

Are they about building up girls and women?

Or offering teaching on how girls and women can follow Jesus?

Nope. It’s all about telling girls and women about what they cannot and should not be doing. Telling them to stay in their box, don’t preach, and stay away from that horrible feminism.

Their choice of resources, I think, reveals their true interests and motives concerning women.

Complementarians want to depict their horrid gender theology as being beneficial to girls, women, and culture, but it is not.

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• On Gender, Power, and Sin: The Evangelical #MeToo Moment from Experimental Theology Blog

On Gender, Power, and Sin: The Evangelical #MeToo Moment from Experimental Theology Blog

 On Gender, Power, and Sin: The Evangelical #MeToo Moment from Experimental Theology Blog

I would ask that you click the link above and read the whole post.

I am only copying a few portions of it here on mine, but the entire post is worth a read.

From that blog:

[Introduction of post:
Long summary of the problems Gender Complementarianism has created for Southern Baptist women, and how Al Mohler is defending Complementarianism, in spite of the fact it serves as the basis for the same sexism and abuse of women Mohler says he is opposed to]

….In short, Mohler seems genuinely anguished and searching for answers, but he can’t offer an accurate diagnosis of what went wrong. He seems legitimately perplexed. He says nothing beyond the same old, same old: Men are in charge, but they shouldn’t abuse the women under their leadership.

But clearly, that’s been a disaster.

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• Conservatives Are Wrong to Dismiss Feminism by S. Quinlan

I am a conservative who has been saying much of the same things this author says in this editorial (below). Too many other conservatives automatically discredit any and all arguments or concerns of feminists, in part because they wrongly conflate feminism with liberalism.

Even if it were true that all feminists are liberals (which is not the case), it does not stand that every point they raise is wrong.

I’ve also noticed for a long time now that a lot of conservatives misunderstand some of the terms or concepts feminists discuss.

I agree with about 99% of the following piece by S. Quinlan; there may be one or two points I do not fully agree with, however.

I was a lifelong Republican until a few years ago. I left the Republican party for several reasons, one of which is I do see double standards – Republicans really do not respect women; a lot of conservative men really are sexist (as are some of the women on the right, who at times pen editorials denying the barriers their own biological sex face).

I, however, cannot join the left or the Democratic Party, because they also adhere to sexist double standards, as well.

Conservatives Are Wrong to Dismiss Feminism


by S. Quinlan

Today’s feminists have some valid concerns, and those on the right would benefit from listening.

Last week, Representative Martha McSally (R., Ariz.) revealed that she had been sexually abused in high school by a coach. Her #MeToo story is a reminder that conservatism cannot afford to dismiss the modern feminist movement.

In the six months since the #MeToo movement began, conservatives have, at times rightly, questioned or criticized some aspects of it. But too often they have wrongly downplayed, ignored, or completely dismissed the impetus of the movement.

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• How Gaslighting Affects Your Mental Health by J. Naftulin

How Gaslighting Affects Your Mental Health  by J. Naftulin

 Once in a while, it’s normal to have a fleeting moment where you question your own sanity, like when you’re severelysleep deprived or stressed out.

But if a relationship leaves you constantly second-guessing your own instincts and feelings, you may be a victim of a sophisticated form of emotional abuse: gaslighting.

Like other types of abuse, gaslighting can happen in all sorts of relationships, including personal, romantic, and professional.

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• A Letter to Pastors in the Age of #ChurchToo By Maggie Konstanski

A Letter to Pastors in the Age of #ChurchToo By Maggie Konstanski

A few highlights from that page:

… While I have personally found God’s redemption and love for women in these difficult biblical stories, I know countless women who remain frustrated and confused about how God views women.

… Women’s experiences with violence and marginalization inform how we read the Bible; how we relate to God; and how we interact with our brothers.

And for survivors of violence, the church’s unbiblical teachings on gender roles are confusing and harmful.

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