• The Miseducation of the American Boy – Toxic Masculinity and the Brokeness of Boyhood by P. Orenstein

The Miseducation of the American Boy – Toxic Masculinity and the Brokeness of Boyhood by P. Orenstein

The Miseducation of the American Boy

Snippets:

…I’ve spent two years talking with boys across America—more than 100 of them between the ages of 16 and 21—about masculinity, sex, and love: about the forces, seen and unseen, that shape them as men.

They [the boys and young men the author interviewed] considered their female classmates to be smart and competent, entitled to their place on the athletic field and in school leadership, deserving of their admission to college and of professional opportunities.

They all had female friends; most had gay male friends as well.

That was a huge shift from what you might have seen 50, 40, maybe even 20 years ago.

They could also easily reel off the excesses of masculinity. They’d seen the headlines about mass shootings, domestic violence, sexual harassment, campus rape, presidential Twitter tantrums, and Supreme Court confirmation hearings.

A Big Ten football player I interviewed bandied about the term toxic masculinity. “Everyone knows what that is,” he said, when I seemed surprised.

Yet when asked to describe the attributes of “the ideal guy,” those same boys appeared to be harking back to 1955. Dominance. Aggression. Rugged good looks (with an emphasis on height). Sexual prowess. Stoicism. Athleticism. Wealth (at least some day).

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• Rape Law After Harvey Weinstein by S. Green

Rape Law After Harvey Weinstein by S. Green

I see some parallels and applicability to the topics of C.S.A. (Clergy Sex Abuse), complementarian teachings to women about sex and marriage, and how churches mistreat victims of sexual in the Christian church, as the issues discussed in the article below.

Rape Law After Harvey Weinstein

by S. Green

In the #MeToo era, should we see sexual contact between the powerful and the relatively powerless as inherently coercive?

January 4, 2019

…Mr. Weinstein’s alleged crimes and misconduct can be divided into three broad categories. The first consists of physically forcing a victim to endure a sexual assault against her will.

This is what the actress Annabella Sciorra, for example, alleges Mr. Weinstein did to her in 1993, when she says he attacked her in her Manhattan apartment. If proven, such conduct would clearly constitute rape.

A second category involves inducing a victim into sex by using coercive, non-violent threats – of the “have sex with me or you’ll never work in this town again” sort. Conduct like this typically wouldn’t have been prosecuted before the mid-1990s.

Today, it routinely is.

Legal authorities now share a broad consensus that sex without valid consent is rape, and that “consent” obtained by coercive threat isn’t valid.

What won’t be on trial in January, however, is a third and more problematic category of sexual misconduct, of the sort that not only Mr. Weinstein but countless other men have been accused of during the #MeToo movement.

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• Progressive Gender Views Among Teen Boys Could Protect Against Violence: Study (2019)

Progressive Gender Views Among Teen Boys Could Protect Against Violence: Study (2019)

Secular traditional gender role views are identical to Christian gender complementarian ones, minus all the Bible references. Bear that in mind any time you’re reading studies like the following.

Complementarianism, far from being “counter cultural,” as so many complementarians maintain, actually undergirds, supports, rationalizes, and perpetuates, the sexist and other troubling attitudes the study below dissects, when it talks about males with more traditional views being more prone to engaging in violence against women (or others).

Progressive Gender Views Among Teen Boys Could Protect Against Violence: Study (2019)

Teenage boys who witness violence are also likely to perpetrate it.

By Erin Schumaker
December 27, 2019

Teenage boys with more progressive views about gender are half as likely to engage in violent behaviors as their peers with rigid views about masculinity and gender, according to new research.

The research, which was published in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine Friday, also found that boys who witnessed their peers engaging in two or more verbally, physically or sexually abusive behaviors — such as making disrespectful comments about a girl’s body or makeup — were two to five times more likely to engage in violent behaviors themselves.

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• A Common Trait Among Mass Killers: Hatred Toward Women By J. Bosman, K. Taylor and T. Arango

A Common Trait Among Mass Killers: Hatred Toward Women By J. Bosman, K. Taylor and T. Arango

A Common Trait Among Mass Killers: Hatred Toward Women

(same article is available on Web Archive)

By J. Bosman, K. Taylor and T. Arango
Aug. 10, 2019

The man who shot nine people to death last weekend in Dayton, Ohio, seethed at female classmates and threatened them with violence.

The man who massacred 49 people in an Orlando nightclub in 2016 beat his wife while she was pregnant, she told authorities.

The man who killed 26 people in a church in Sutherland Springs, Tex., in 2017 had been convicted of domestic violence. His ex-wife said he once told her that he could bury her body where no one would ever find it.

The motivations of men who commit mass shootings are often muddled, complex or unknown. But one common thread that connects many of them — other than access to powerful firearms — is a history of hating women, assaulting wives, girlfriends and female family members, or sharing misogynistic views online, researchers say.

As the nation grapples with last weekend’s mass shootings and debates new red-flag laws and tighter background checks, some gun control advocates say the role of misogyny in these attacks should be considered in efforts to prevent them.

The fact that mass shootings are almost exclusively perpetrated by men is “missing from the national conversation,” said Gov. Gavin Newsom of California on Monday. “Why does it have to be, why is it men, dominantly, always?”

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• Conservative Christian Preacher Stephen Allwine Thinks Murdering His Wife Better Than Divorcing Her

Conservative Christian Preacher Stephen Allwine Thinks Murdering His Wife Better Than Divorcing Her

I watched a true-crime program about a guy named Stephen Allwine.

Stephen Allwine, and his wife, Amy, belonged to a conservative Christian church. I believe the show said they attended the Church of God.

The narrator doing the voice over on this show explained that the Allwine’s denomination strongly disapproved of divorce, so rather than divorce his wife, Stephen murdered her.

You know we have one messed up interpretation of the Bible, and some very messed up theology, when churches and some Christians make divorce out to be so bad that it looks worse than murder.

Murder becomes preferable to divorce to some. That is where some Christian attitudes and legalism leads.

This is my second post like this on this blog – I did another one just like it awhile ago about another married Christian couple, where the husband hired men to kill his wife, because he belonged to a church that felt that divorce was almost an unforgivable sin.

This Allwine guy also had affairs on his wife. Prior to killing his wife, he was on the website for married cheaters: “Ashley Madison.”

Here are some links to news reports about Allwine’s murder of his wife:

Police: Man who cheated using Ashley Madison, tried hiring hit man on dark web in bid to murder wife

January 2018

A Minnesota preacher in a failing marriage, who failed in his attempt to hire a hitman using bitcoin on the dark web, also failed to convincingly stage his wife’s murder as a suicide — a final misstep that ultimately led to his arrest, officials said.

…The couple, who met at a Christian college and were active members of their church together also adopted a son.

Stephen Allwine, a religious man who served as a church elder and deacon at a United Church of God congregation also offered marriage counseling to couples having trouble.

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• The End of Empathy by Hanna Rosin

The End of Empathy

This issues discussed in this article remind me of this Bible verse:

Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold…

The End Of Empathy by Hanna Rosin

Snippets:

…Americans these days seem to be losing their appetite for empathy, especially the walk-a-mile-in-someone’s-shoes Easter Sunday morning kind.

…Konrath [associate professor and researcher at Indiana University] collected decades of studies and noticed a very obvious pattern.

Starting around 2000, the line starts to slide.

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• Godly Men, Be Quiet By S. Krehbiel

Godly Men, Be Quiet By S. Krehbiel

Godly Men, Be Quiet By S. Krehbiel

Snippets:

….Patriarchal Christian masculinity is a powerful drug. It makes many church men believe that the world desperately needs their perspective on everything.

It makes their followers believe that asking such men to step aside from leadership is somehow tantamount to cruelty. 

God is always calling these men to lead someone or something, even when what they know about that thing may be approximately two cents less than nothing

Particularly in the evangelical world, the spiritual quality that seems to most define men like this is their ability to imagine that they hear God in the voice of their own ambition.

And then, inevitably, they start talking about healing, and positioning themselves as experts on how survivors should heal and need to heal. They cultivate suspiciously in-house quasi-professionals. They host high-profile healing services.

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