• Six Ways to Increase Tolerance for Uncertainty and Help Manage Your Anxiety by Victoria Maxwell

Six Ways to Increase Tolerance for Uncertainty and Help Manage Your Anxiety by V. Maxwell

Six Ways to Increase Tolerance for Uncertainty and Help Manage Your Anxiety by Victoria Maxwell

Snippets:

…Psychology Today describes generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) as a “chronic state of severe worry and tension, often without provocation. Those with GAD regularly anticipate disaster, often worrying excessively about health, money, family, or work. Merely getting through the day brings on anxiety.”

Sounds comfy huh? Not.

Research tells us that people with GAD have difficulty tolerating uncertainty. In Anxiety Canada’s video, psychologist Dr. Melisa Robichaud, explains “intolerance of uncertainty means the person with GAD will worry about an imagined feared event as long as there is even the slightest risk of it happening.”

• Helping Girls Become Fearless: Encouraging Courage and Grit by Gina Barreca Ph.D.

Helping Girls Become Fearless: Encouraging Courage and Grit by Gina Barreca Ph.D.

I find a lot of what this author says of secular life and secular culture to be true of Christianity, particularly any form of Christianity or any church or denomination that promotes and agrees with “Gender Complementarianism.”

Complementarians do not encourage women to have boundaries and to think for themselves – which can leave women open to attracting abusive or selfish people into their lives.

Caveat on this link I am providing below:
I am pro-life, a conservative, but the woman who wrote this piece is apparently pro-choice and apparently is left wing, so I do not agree with all her views.

I have a few additional comments below the excerpts:

Helping Girls Become Fearless: Encouraging Courage and Grit by Gina Barreca Ph.D.

Excerpts:

…A big part of my self-definition came from pleasing my teachers and I felt as if I was deliberately letting them down when I simply couldn’t master long division in fourth-grade.

…The courageous and dynamic women who caught my attention helped me begin to imagine what life might be like.

[The author mentions that her mother died when she was a junior in high school]

There was nothing to do but look after myself. I learned to stop waiting for someone else to provide comfort, or solace, or apologies. I stopped depending on anyone—parent, family member, teacher, boyfriend, or friend—to define who I was or who I might become.

• Women’s Pay Lags As They Often Work For Free, Says New Report

Women’s Pay Lags As They Often Work For Free, Says New Report

Women’s Pay Lags As They Often Work For Free, Says New Report

January 20, 2020

by Charisse Jones, USA TODAY

A woman’s work is — often unpaid.

That’s a key finding in a new report from Oxfam, an international organization focused on fighting poverty.

Women in the U.S. typically spend two hours more per day than their male counterparts cleaning, cooking and doing other unpaid tasks. That adds up to more than 95 additional eight-hour work days in a year that women work for free.

If American women did receive a paycheck for that time, it could add up to as much as $1.48 trillion annually, Oxfam says. That figure soars to $10.8 trillion a year when women’s unpaid work worldwide is given a value.

“Women and girls, who spend billions of hours cooking, cleaning, and caring for children and the elderly are the backbone of our global economy, yet benefit the least from it,” Paul O’Brien, Oxfam America’s vice president of policy and advocacy said in a statement.

A woman’s work is — often unpaid.

• Churches Struggle with Mental Health – Preachers Being Fired For Having Depression by I. Lovett

Churches Struggle with Mental Health – Preachers Being Fired For Having Depression by I. Lovett

I’m not surprised. Christians are some of the most ignorant and judgmental people concerning mental health issues.

Summary for Christians reading this:

-Mental health problems are

not an indication of or result of spiritual issues or personal failings or weaknesses.

-Mental Health problems cannot be healed via spiritual means only.
Reading the Bible, volunteering at charities, believing in Jesus, praying and believing for a healing, living a sinless life, repenting of sin, and/or attending church will not make mental health problems vanish.

-Secular psychology / psychiatry and doctor prescribed medications used to treat mental health problems are not evil, anti-God, immoral, un-biblical.

Churches Struggle with Mental Health – Preachers Being Fired For Having Depression by I. Lovett

Snippets:

Christian leaders have lost jobs over such conditions as depression and bipolar disorder

By Ian Lovett / January 2020

In most industries, federal laws protect workers with disabilities, including mental illness. Church is an exception. Employees including pastors are still regularly fired after disclosing mental-health problems.

…. Statistics on mental health and pastors are scarce.

But psychologists who specialize in treating ministers say that Christian pastors are still regularly fired after church elders discover they suffer from depression, bipolar disorder or other mental-health problems.

• How Cognitive Bias Leads People to Believe That They Are Far Superior to Others Than They Actually Are

How Cognitive Bias Leads People to Believe That They Are Far Superior to Others Than They Actually Are

How Cognitive Bias s Leads People to Believe That They Are Far Superior to Others Than They Actually Are

In an illuminating episode of the colorful whiteboard animation series After Skool (previously), guest hostTrace Dominguez explain the cognitive bias at the heart of the Dunning–Kruger effect leads people to believe that they are far superior to others in terms of skill, knowledge and/or ability than they actually are.

The effect essentially renders an individual unable to recognize their respective limitations.

In the field of psychology, the Dunning–Kruger effect is a cognitive bias in which people mistakenly assess their cognitive ability as greater than it is.

• My New Daisy Twitter Account – Because Twitter Locked Down My Original Account YET AGAIN

My New Daisy Twitter Account – Because Twitter Locked Down My Original Account YET AGAIN

My new Daisy account, located here (the handle is @Flower2Ms)

Unfortunately, Twitter says they have temporarily locked down my original Twitter account, “@MsDaisyFlower” (located here).

They locked it down about a week ago. I am tired of waiting for them to rectify this situation.

I have used their “Help” contact form to contact them, and I e-mailed them, seeking redress, but my account still remains locked.

• Posts from Roll to Disbelieve Blog Regarding Christians Who Deconvert or Deconstruct

Posts from Roll to Disbelieve Blog Regarding Christians Who Deconvert or Deconstruct

This may be a post I amend in the future if I see more posts on the Roll to Disbelieve about Christian deconversion or deconstruction.

As Joshua Harris and Marty Sampson – two “Christian celebrities” have recently announced they are “done” with the faith or are “deconstructing,” I thought I’d feature some links about them.

I don’t agree 100% with all views expressed on the Roll to Disbelieve blog, but I do think the author, Captain Cassidy, does a pretty good job of explaining how and why Christians act the way they do about people who question or leave the faith.

Presenting: several posts from the Roll to Disbelieve blog:

Hillsong Songwriter Marty Sampson Has Left the Jesus Building

Snippets:

...The Vast Disappointments Served Up by Christianity.
I sure don’t wonder. None of Christianity lines up with reality. The miracle claims don’t look like actual miracles to anybody but those primed to see them that way. Prayer doesn’t actually do anything in the real world for anybody–which is why Christians must tell people they’re doing it.

• U.S. Suicide Rates Are The Highest They’ve Been Since World War II, According to Federal Data

U.S. Suicide Rates Are The Highest They’ve Been Since World War II, According to Federal Data

U.S. Suicide Rates Are The Highest They’ve Been Since World War II, According to Federal Data

by Jamie Ducharme
June 20, 2019

U.S. suicide rates are at their highest since World War II, according to federal data—and the opioid crisis, widespread social media use and high rates of stress may be among the myriad contributing factors.

….It’s even more difficult to assign causes to the uptick, Harkavy-Friedman says, because it’s happening across diverse demographic groups.

Men have historically died by suicide more frequently than women, and that’s still true: As of 2017, the male suicide rate was more than three times higher than the female rate.

But female suicide rates are rising more quickly—by 53% since 1999, compared to 26% for men—and the gap is narrowing.

• Man Who Won $30 Million Lottery While in Middle of Divorce Ordered to Share Winnings With His Ex-Wife

Man Who Won $30 Million Lottery While in Middle of Divorce Ordered to Share Winnings With His Ex-Wife

Man Who Won $30 Million Lottery While in Middle of Divorced Ordered to Share Winnings

June 2019

PONTIAC, Mich. — A suburban Detroit man who was in the middle of a divorce when he won more than $30 million must share the lottery windfall with his ex-wife.

• Blocked From Using My Daisy Twitter Account (June 2019)

Well, this is annoying

Twitter locked me out of my Twitter account about two days ago.

Without warning I was just quickly locked out, and taken to a page that says, “We have detected unusual activity on your account, so we are locking it down.”

I think their page said this is a temporary situation?

I was using my account as I always do – just RTing interesting articles, I commented on someone else’s Tweets.

Shortly before I was booted off, I did send two links to internet sexist Matt Walsh – maybe he reported me for harassment, and that is what got me blocked?

• Captain Marvel Earns More Than One Billion At the Box Office World Wide, to the Chagrin of Complementarians and Sexists

It seems almost every time a movie featuring a female lead – or set of them – is released within the past five years that sexist and complementarian social media goes insane with vitriol and condemns these films, or says they are an attack on white men.

I have no idea why men (and it’s usually men) get so upset over female-led movies such as the 2016 Ghostbusters, Captain Marvel, The Force Awakens, or any movie that does not feature a young, male, white lead.

(The same guys were also disturbed by the mostly black-cast film Black Panther and tried to sabotage it – and failed. See: Alt-right group tries to sabotage ‘Black Panther’ reviews).

Before Black Panther, there was Wesley Snipes in the Blade trilogy. In these movies, which were released around the late 1990s or early 2000s, you have a black guy who is half-vampire hunting and killing vampires who were feeding on humans. It’s not as though Black Panther was the first black male superhero on screen.

Before Brie Larson in Captain Marvel and Melissa McCarthy in Ghostbusters, there was Carrie Fisher as Princess Leia, Linda Hamilton as Sarah Conner, Sigourney Weaver as Ripley in the Alien franchise, and on TV, we had Lynda Carter as Wonder Woman and Lucy Lawless as Xena: Warrior Princess. The vast majority of hero characters were male for a long time (and white), but there were the occasional women hero characters.

But I don’t recall the complementarians and sexist ass-hats having conniption fits over those women characters in the past.

Some of these sexist knuckle-draggers even tried to sabotage Captain Marvel before it opened, by down-voting it on Rotten Tomatoes.

Between The Trolls & A Bug On The Site, Captain Marvel Can’t Catch A Break On Rotten Tomatoes

‘Captain Marvel’ Sandbagged on Rotten Tomatoes Within a Few Hours of Opening

Despite the site’s attempts to subvert the trolls, 58,000 reviews were counted (with thousands of them later expunged).

• Therapists Too Quick to Assume Someone Has a Personality Disorder by Keir Harding

Therapists Too Quick to Assume Someone Has a Personality Disorder by Keir Harding

Keir Harding says those who have lived through trauma deserve better, and Ash Charlton says it is a myth that one of the biggest predictors for an adult becoming an abuser is if they have been abused themselves

[Article discusses a conference about mental health that is to be held in the UK]

…We are moving away from “what is wrong with you?” and looking closer at “what happened to you?”.

• Grief Can Hurt – In More Ways Than One by Harvard Health Publishing

Grief Can Hurt – In More Ways Than One by Harvard Health Publishing

Grief Can Hurt – In More Ways Than One by Harvard Health Publishing

From the first half of the article:

February 2019

Stress and depression may lead to new health issues or intensify the symptoms of existing conditions.

We tend to think of grieving as an emotional experience, and it is — fraught with intense sadness, profound loss, and psychological pain.

But grief has a physical side that sets us up for a number of health risks.