• Sexual Assault Victims Who Turn on Sexual Assault Victims by K. Burmeister

Sexual Assault Victims Who Turn on Sexual Assault Victims by K. Burmeister

Sexual Assault Victims Who Turn on Sexual Assault Victims


October 2018

Most sexual assault survivors are supportive of other survivors, but sometimes a sexual assault victim comes along who isn’t supportive. Sometimes these victims are outright hostile toward survivors.

It can be hard to understand why these fellow victims would try to throw other victims under the bus. In my experience, there are a few reasons this might happen, and I believe it’s important for us to be aware of these reasons as we’re having these difficult conversations.

….They Might Actually be a Jerk

Anyone can be the victim of sexual assault. Women. Men. Straight. LGBTQ. Adults. Children. Elders.

And jerks. Jerks can be sexually assaulted too.

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• All Career Advice For Women Is A Form of Gaslighting by Ephrat Livni

All Career Advice For Women Is A Form of Gaslighting by Ephrat Livni

All Career Advice For Women Is A Form of Gaslighting by By Ephrat Livni


If you’re a working woman, you’ve likely been inundated with advice about how to ensure that gender double standards don’t impede your brilliant career. 

Assert yourself boldly at meetings in an appropriately low tone of voice, yet purr pleasingly when negotiating salary. Be smart but never superior, a team player though not a pushover, ever-effective yet not intimidatingly intellectual. Calibrate ambition correctly, so that none are offended by your sense of self-worth, but all seek to reward your value. Dress the part.

Inevitably, even in the most allegedly enlightened workplaces, women contend with subtle biases. And so the fairer sex gets the message that we can’t just work. We must also contort and twist and try not to seem bitchy as we lean in.

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• World’s Top Empathy Researcher Accused Of Bullying Colleagues

Well this is a bummer.

I was thinking of writing a post about empathy, because I’ve found that a lot of Christians – who I think should excel more so than any other group at showing empathy – are not empathetic.

You can be going through something very painful in life, and the average Christian, rather than just commiserating with you, will give you a list of “stuff to do,” or will shame you or will give you platitudes.

This story is sad.

It also goes to show that sometimes women are terrible to other women.

Because I rail a lot about male on female sexism, a lot of cranks have accused me of “hating men,” but I’ve had to remind these people that I’ve blogged about (and discussed on other blogs) how I was

  • bullied by one woman boss on a full time professional position I held,
  • I’ve been verbally abused by an older sister for many years, and, of course,
  • I’ve gotten into it with various other women on these blogs, from that “Christiane” person to “Velour” to Lea to Rachel Nichols to Lydia.

I left a post at TWW a week or two ago, a comment in reply to someone else who was saying if more women were in charge (of churches, or in researching abuse allegations, I think the poster was saying), that justice would be served, or there would not be so much abuse:

“That idea only works if you have the “right” women in charge. I’ve been pushed around, bullied, and abused by women, too, not just by men.”

It is very sad and ironic that a person (a woman in this case) who is known as an expert on empathy shows none to her co-workers or subordinates.

This woman sounds similar to the she-demon I had to endure at one job I had.

World’s top empathy researcher accused of bullying colleagues: 75% of her researchers have QUIT over claims she screams and intimidates

‘People Were Terrified’: Empathy Expert Is Accused of Bullying

A celebrated neuroscientist known for her work on human empathy is now being called a workplace bully who can reduce colleagues to tears, the Cut reports. Tania Singer, director of the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences in Leipzig, Germany, has taken a sabbatical to “calm the situation down,” her employer says.

Big bad bosses like Elon Musk keep proving “the power paradox”

World’s Top Empathy Researcher Accused Of Bullying Colleagues

She’s the world’s top empathy researcher. But colleagues say she bullied and intimidated them

By Kai Kupferschmidt

Aug. 8, 2018 , 4:10 PM

Tania Singer, a celebrated neuroscientist and director at the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences in Leipzig, Germany, is known as one of the world’s foremost experts on empathy.

In her research, she has sought to demonstrate that meditation can make people more kind and caring. The title of a profile of Singer written by this reporter in 2013 summed up her public image: Concentrating on Kindness.

But inside her lab, it was a very different story, eight former and current colleagues say in interviews with Science.

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