• Complementarianism Misnomer: It’s Really About Male Hierarchy and Female Servitude to Men – It’s Not About The Sexes Complementing Each Other

Complementarianism Misnomer: It’s Really About Male Hierarchy and Female Servitude to Men – It’s Not About The Sexes Complementing Each Other

(I still have two or three posts in Draft status on this blog regarding the subjects of Toxic Masculinity and sexual harassment. I don’t know when or if I shall ever finish those.)

The word “complementarian” (or “complementarianism”) as used by Christian gender complementarians does not truly denote or connote the complementary natures of the two biological sexes, male and female, as they often like to claim.

Depending on the type of complementarian you are speaking with or whose literature you are reading, they are either overt or subtle about what they truly believe about the term and what it’s meant to convey.

I’ve seen complementarian material where it is just assumed, a given, it is underlying all their opinions and assumptions, that the Bible teaches that God intended for males to rule over females.

The main point of my post here is to point out the dishonesty and inaccuracy of the use of language by complementarians in this matter.

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• WoeBot, The Chatbot Therapist, Will See You Now – The Rise of Chatbot Therapy

On Wired:

The Chatbot Therapist Will See You Now

On Washington Post:

‘The Woebot will see you now’ — the rise of chatbot therapy

by Amy Ellis Nutt

Dec 3, 2017

…It wasn’t a surprise, of course. I’d downloaded “Woebot,” a chatbot recently created by researchers, and it was trying to establish our therapeutic relationship.

“Part of the value of Woebot is you can get things off your chest without worrying what the other person thinks, without that fear of judgment,” said Alison Darcy, founder and chief executive of Woebot Labs. “We wanted it to make an emotional connection.”

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• A Rescue Plan For The Anxious Child by Andrea Petersen

This article from The Wall Street Journal, which I include further below in this post, reminds me of my childhood.

I had social anxiety disorder and generalized anxiety disorder. I still struggle with some of these things, but I don’t think it’s as severe in some ways now for me.

When I was a kid, and even into my 20s, I was usually too afraid to make eye contact with waiters in restaurants, or talk to waiters to give them my order – I sometimes forced myself to do those things, however.

None of the mental health professionals I saw for over two decades diagnosed me with anxiety, though I had a severe case of anxiety since childhood. I had to do research on my own to figure out that is what it was called – anxiety.

When I got older and brought this up with a psychiatrist I was seeing, and described it to her, she agreed I had anxiety disorders, as did the next doctor I saw, and they both prescribed anti-anxiety medications for me (the medications did not work. Yes, we tried using the meds at different dosages. Yes, I tried different meds. None of that worked.)

One odd thing about this 2017 article I link you to below is that there is one quite similar to it from 2008 by the same author, also on the same news site.

I have some comments below this:

The Right Way for Parents to Help Anxious Children


Anxiety disorders are common in childhood, and many parents naturally want to shield their youngsters from distress. But that is often the exact opposite of what they should do

December 8, 2017

By Andrea Petersen

…Anxiety becomes a disorder… when it impairs a child’s basic functioning – preventing her from going to school or making friends, for example – or causes serious distress. Anxious kids tend to have physical symptoms, such as headaches and stomachaches, which don’t have a medical cause.

Anxiety disorders are remarkably common among children in the U.S.: nearly one-third of them will have an anxiety disorder by age 18, according to a 2010 study in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry – and girls are more at risk.
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• For Some of Us Running Is the Key To Managing Depression And Anxiety by Scott Douglas

For Some of Us Running Is the Key To Managing Depression And Anxiety by Scott Douglas

Running puts everyone in a better mood. But for some of us, our miles are key to managing depression and anxiety.

[Author discusses his depression and his friend Meredith’s anxiety]

…We do have one key thing in common: Meredith and I run primarily to bolster our mental health. Like all runners, we relish the short-term experience of finishing our run feeling like we’ve hit reset and can better handle the rest of the day.

What’s not universal is our recognition that, without regular running, the underlying fabric of our lives—our friendships, our marriages, our careers, our odds of being something other than miserable most of the time—will fray. For those of us with depression or anxiety, we need running like a diabetic needs insulin.

Meredith and I discovered this decades ago, and now researchers and practitioners are starting to catch up. Studies show that aerobic exercise can be as effective as anti-depressants in treating mild to moderate depression (and with side effects like improved health and weight management rather than bloating and sexual dysfunction).

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• These Ideas About Sexual Attraction May Be Based on Shoddy Science by M W Moyer

(Link): These Ideas About Sexual Attraction May Be Based on Shoddy Science

by M W Moyer


Last week, the technology magazine Ars Technica published a (Link): bombshell of a story questioning the integrity of the work of French psychologist Nicolas Guéguen.

You may not have heard of Guéguen, but you’ve almost certainly heard of his research. It’s even been covered by New York. “One French Scientist Found Five Research-Backed Ways to Get a Woman’s Number,” a helpful Science of Us (Link): piece touted in 2014.

Time covered one of his studies in a story titled “Science Proves It: Men Really Do Find High Heels Sexier.” The (Link): Atlantic and the (Link): New York Times have written about his work, too.

The Ars Technica story describes the dogged efforts of two scientists, Nick Brown and James Heathers, who started asking questions of Guéguen in 2015 after noticing weird things. It started with a study they laughed over one evening — one that reported that men are less likely to help women whose hair is tied up in a bun or ponytail.

When they carefully read the study, they noticed that many of Guéguen’s reported numbers didn’t make sense considering the calculations involved.

Things smelled fishier when they saw just how huge the differences were that he was reporting — differences that are, in social science research, highly improbable.

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• Four Research-Based Solutions Beyond Mike Pence’s ‘Billy Graham Rule.’ by H G Scott

To More Than a Few Good Men: Don’t Give Up on Working with Women


by H G Scott

Four research-based solutions beyond Mike Pence’s ‘Billy Graham Rule.’

……However, because of the Billy Graham Rule, Christian women often report feeling awkward or alienated in the workplace. They also feel diminished to nothing more than a sexual object.

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• How Some Family Values, Republican, Christian, Complementarian Men Understand Ephesians 5:22

How Some Family Values, Republican, Christian, Complementarian Men Understand Ephesians 5:22

I’m going to cite the news story from a few different sources, then give some commentary below it, where I explain how this ties in with Christian gender complementarianism, and why it is problematic for complementarians.

The News Story

Trump Campaign Coordinator and ‘Family Values’ Republican [Ralph Shortey] Pleads Guilty to Child Sex Trafficking, Faces Life in Prison

Ralph Shortey, a former Oklahoma state senator and county campaign coordinator for President Donald Trump’s campaign last year, will plead guilty to a child sex trafficking charge after being accused of soliciting sex from a 17-year-old boy in March.

Shortey is married and has four children.

…He was later charged in federal court with two counts of child pornography, production of child pornography and child sex trafficking.

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