• Signs You’re Sensitive (the HSP)

Signs You’re Sensitive (the HSP) Highly Sensitive Person

I was talking with a woman on a forum years ago who told me based upon some of my descriptions of myself that she believes I am an HSP. She told me to check out the website by an author who wrote a book about the topic.

Here below I am linking to an article about the topic.

I would agree that many of the things on the list are applicable to me. There are few things on the list that I think are only partially true to me or not true at all. (For example, I don’t think I am overly sensitive to caffeine, which is one of the items on the list.)

As to this item on the list: “6. You can read people really well.”

That would be true of me, but I’m not sure how much that is due to being HSP in my case, or the fact that my mother raised me to be codependent, so that my only permitted form of self-defense she gave me was avoidance.

I therefore learned to read people quickly from a very young age, so I could avoid bullies or abusers as much as I could.

I had no choice, because it was a form of self defense or self preservation, since Mom never allowed me to defend myself if someone got mean, rude, or abusive towards me. That “reading people quickly” was a necessary survival skill.

I think some of the qualities on this list goes hand- in- hand with my introverted nature, though the article below says that HSP and introversion are not one in the same.

I am not going to copy the entire page, so if you’d like to see the list in full, please click the link below:

Nine Signs You’re More Sensitive

People are different and react to things differently, internally and externally. Though some people never seem to be bothered or negatively affected by anything that happens or that people say to them, others have a much more difficult time doing that.

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• Christianity Isn’t About Politeness, Introversion is Not Sinful, and Your Complementarian Biblical Interpretation is Incorrect: Addressing the ‘Don’t Be Yourself’ Essay by Greg Morse

Christianity Isn’t About Politeness, Introversion is Not Sinful, and Your Complementarian Biblical Interpretation is Incorrect: Addressing the ‘Don’t Be Yourself’ Essay by Greg Morse

Below I provide you with a link to a paper by Greg Morse on the “Desiring God” site, where he declares that introversion is sinful, and he argues (among other things) that strong-willed women are in a state of sin, and need to repress their God-given, strong-willed personalities in order to be properly submissive to a husband.

There are many reasons why I’ve been doubting the Christian faith over the last few years. (I accepted Christ as my Savior when I was a kid but now wonder if the faith is a bunch of bunk or if it’s meaningful or useful to me or for me.)

The following editorial at the Desiring God website is one of those sorts of things that pushes me just a lit bit further away from the faith.

This editorial on the “Desiring God” site, by a Greg Morse, Don’t Be Yourself, is the sort of thing that makes me step back, look at the faith, and ask myself, “Do I really want to be a part of something that teaches and believes this sort of thing?”

Before an obnoxious Christian chimes in to say, “But I follow Jesus Christ, not Greg Morse!,” I should explain that again, this is just one small example of many that adds up to make me think that Christianity is irrelevant and even harmful. (I too do not worship Greg Morse or consider Morse a deity, by the way.)

I’d also tell such obnoxious Christians that until and unless you experience some deeply painful things in your own life (as I have in mine the last few years) that really causes you to question the faith, you’re not bound to really, really deeply wonder if Christianity is true, or, even if it is, what good does it do me in my daily  life?

It’s easy to live the Christian life on an “I only follow Jesus, not men, so what Christian men do in the name of Christ doesn’t bother me” auto-pilot if your life is more or less going the way you want, or if nothing painful or incredibly stressful is going on in your life. But I’m not living on a Christian auto-pilot any more, so I do question things more now.

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