• How Very Bad Men Get Away With Rape by J. Valenti

How Very Bad Men Get Away With Rape by J. Valenti

How Very Bad Men Get Away With Rape

It takes one person to commit a rape, but a village to let them get away with it over and over

…Why is this minority of bad men able to get away with abusing women over and over? Because “good” men make it easier for them.

You don’t have to be an abuser to enable abuse, and over the last few weeks, Americans have watched that reality play out on the national stage.

Knee-jerk sympathy for men accused of wrongdoing isn’t new.

After CBS chairman Les Moonves was accused of sexual assault, for example, network board member Arnold Kopelson said, “I don’t care if 30 more women come forward and allege this kind of stuff… Les is our leader and it wouldn’t change my opinion of him.” Phyllis Golden-Gottlieb, who says Moonves raped her in 1986, told New Yorker reporter Ronan Farrow that she didn’t come forward for fear it would derail her career. Comments like Kopelson’s suggest she was likely correct.

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• On Gender, Power, and Sin: The Evangelical #MeToo Moment from Experimental Theology Blog

On Gender, Power, and Sin: The Evangelical #MeToo Moment from Experimental Theology Blog

 On Gender, Power, and Sin: The Evangelical #MeToo Moment from Experimental Theology Blog

I would ask that you click the link above and read the whole post.

I am only copying a few portions of it here on mine, but the entire post is worth a read.

From that blog:

[Introduction of post:
Long summary of the problems Gender Complementarianism has created for Southern Baptist women, and how Al Mohler is defending Complementarianism, in spite of the fact it serves as the basis for the same sexism and abuse of women Mohler says he is opposed to]

….In short, Mohler seems genuinely anguished and searching for answers, but he can’t offer an accurate diagnosis of what went wrong. He seems legitimately perplexed. He says nothing beyond the same old, same old: Men are in charge, but they shouldn’t abuse the women under their leadership.

But clearly, that’s been a disaster.

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• Conservatives Are Wrong to Dismiss Feminism by S. Quinlan

I am a conservative who has been saying much of the same things this author says in this editorial (below). Too many other conservatives automatically discredit any and all arguments or concerns of feminists, in part because they wrongly conflate feminism with liberalism.

Even if it were true that all feminists are liberals (which is not the case), it does not stand that every point they raise is wrong.

I’ve also noticed for a long time now that a lot of conservatives misunderstand some of the terms or concepts feminists discuss.

I agree with about 99% of the following piece by S. Quinlan; there may be one or two points I do not fully agree with, however.

I was a lifelong Republican until a few years ago. I left the Republican party for several reasons, one of which is I do see double standards – Republicans really do not respect women; a lot of conservative men really are sexist (as are some of the women on the right, who at times pen editorials denying the barriers their own biological sex face).

I, however, cannot join the left or the Democratic Party, because they also adhere to sexist double standards, as well.

Conservatives Are Wrong to Dismiss Feminism


by S. Quinlan

Today’s feminists have some valid concerns, and those on the right would benefit from listening.

Last week, Representative Martha McSally (R., Ariz.) revealed that she had been sexually abused in high school by a coach. Her #MeToo story is a reminder that conservatism cannot afford to dismiss the modern feminist movement.

In the six months since the #MeToo movement began, conservatives have, at times rightly, questioned or criticized some aspects of it. But too often they have wrongly downplayed, ignored, or completely dismissed the impetus of the movement.

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• What Tony Robbins Got Wrong in His Controversial #MeToo Comment, According to Career Experts

What Tony Robbins Got Wrong in His Controversial #MeToo Comment, According to Career Experts

What Tony Robbins Got Wrong in His Controversial #MeToo Comment, According to Career Experts

April 9, 2018

In his now-viral comments, life coach Tony Robbins shared a problematic anecdote on how some men in positions of power are responding to the #MeToo movement with discriminatory hiring practices.

“I was just with someone the other day — very famous man, very powerful man — who was saying how stressed he was because he interviewed three people that day,” Robbins told a packed crowd in San Jose last month in what now has become a viral and heavily criticized speech. “One was a woman, two were men. The woman was better qualified, but she was very attractive and he knew, ‘I can’t have her around; it’s too big of a risk,’ and he hired somebody else.”

“I’ve had a dozen men tell me this,” he added.

The purposeful dismissal of a qualified female candidate due to her looks is indicative of a larger issue in how companies and men are responding to the national conversation about sexual harassment in the workplace in this #MeToo era.

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• You Say You’re Against Victimhood Culture Yet You Depict All Men As Victims

You Say You’re Against Victimhood Culture Yet You Depict All Men As Victims

Edit: Many Liberals and Conservatives and Republicans and Democrats politicize sexism, sexual assault, and sexual harassment.

Neither side comes out smelling like a rose on these issues, and it’s pretty disgusting to watch it play out on social media and on the nightly TV news.

Post has been edited below (as of September 2018) to add Kavanaugh-related links because my fellow conservatives are now portraying all men as being victims of – I guess of women, of the MeToo movement, or who knows what…

In this post, I am specifically addressing Americans in American culture, though I have seen non-Americans play this game at times as well, in online news articles and editorials.

A lot of people – particularly those with a disposition against liberal feminism (or any type of feminism, actually) say that one problem they have with feminism is that, in their opinion, that all of feminism depicts all women as being weak little victims. That is their perception, but it’s not an accurate one.

This tendency to think of feminism as being a perpetuater of Victimhood Culture is especially true of conservatives, of which I am one myself (that is, I am a conservative).

Too often, those who hold this view never really take the time to try to actually understand feminists and what they’re saying, nor do they visit primary source material but read or listen to second-hand summaries of feminist views as spoken of or explained by conservatives or by conservative opinion sites, such as Rush Limbaugh, Twitchy, The Federalist, and so on.

Additionally, many conservatives are guilty of holding up the truly wacked out, kookified fringe of what is supposed to pass for feminism, the conservatives say – such as women wearing vagina costumes in women’s marches – and then broad-brushing all of feminism as being nutty.

Many conservatives love to produce memes of such crackpots (the vagina costumed women) and then write all sorts of slurs about feminism on them.

However, unlike other conservatives (or those who are anti-feminist but who may not go by the label of conservative), I’ve actually made it a point to get out of the conservative echo chamber and visit and lurk at sites by liberals and feminists.

Too often, many other conservatives get their information about liberals (or feminism) via conservative channels (such as conservative host Rush Limbaugh), which tend to skew, misunderstand, or misrepresent what feminism is about, and what feminists mean or are saying.

Usually, but not always, the people saying that feminists maintain or create a Victimhood Culture identify as conservative, or are at least sympathetic to some conservative ideals.

As I noted in another post, a lot of conservatives (of who I am one myself) and Christian gender complementarians (who tend to be religiously and politically conservative) frequently misunderstand or misrepresent feminism.

The Double Standard

The very same conservatives (or others of whatever political association who oppose feminism) who argue that feminism supposedly portrays all women as victims are the very same individuals who often depict all men as being victims.

This is hypocritical. It’s a double standard, but one that feminism haters have a blind spot to- they don’t seem to recognize they are doing the very thing they say feminists are guilty of.

When or if feminists (or anyone concerned about girls and women) publish studies, tweets, articles, or blog posts mentioning how women and girls have faced difficulty or unfair disadvantage or abuse in marriage, dating, employment, or whatever area of life, immediately, the feminist-haters will fire up their blogs, or Twitter accounts, to counter with commentary such as,

“But look at how much more worse men have it in that same area, far worse than women do, ever have, or ever will! According to a study by XYZ University, more men suffer than women because, …. (etc etc)….”

You see, the anti-feminists, who belittle feminists for supposedly supporting a “victimhood culture” like to counter their mis-perception of feminism by saying that men are bigger victims than women.

It’s an irony (and a double standard), as I said, that is lost on those who oppose feminism.

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• No, #MeToo Isn’t McCarthyism by S. Gilbert

No, #MeToo Isn’t McCarthyism by S. Gilbert

No, #MeToo Isn’t McCarthyism by S. Gilbert

Critics of the movement against sexual harassment and assault charge that it’s going too far, but their arguments take very little stock of what women are actually saying.

One of the criticisms of the #MeToo movement that’s emerged and re-emerged most tenaciously over the past few months is that women are consistently conflating major crimes with minor ones. Violent sexual assault isn’t the same thing as a swat on the behind in a crowded bar.

Targeted sexual harassment isn’t the same thing as a clumsy pass after too many vodka sodas have been consumed.

But this is a straw man argument—I have yet to find evidence of a single woman claiming that any of these things are equal.

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• Complementarianism As One Basis For Sexual Harassment Against Women by C. C. James

A commentary about the “Me Too” and “Church Too” twitter trends, which highlighted sexual harassment against women by men.

The author here basically says in a much shorter format what I said in an older post comparing Christian Gender Complementarianism to Codependency:

The Silence Breakers: A Kairos Moment for the Church


by Carolyn Custis James

….But without investigating and addressing the sources of the problem, our efforts will fall short and the epidemic will persist.

In good conscience, we cannot adequately address this epidemic without exploring causative factors that increase female vulnerability and allow for such violations against women to occur in the first place. Otherwise, we are fighting a losing battle. We must take preventative action too.

Those Ubiquitous S-Words
Rachel Simmons, author of Enough As She Is, put her finger on a major contributing factor when she wrote,

Women have been taught, by every cultural force imaginable, that we must be ‘nice’ and quiet’ and ‘polite,’ that we must protect others’ feelings before our own. That we are there for other’s pleasure.

The same kind of social messaging for women intensifies in the church, reinforced by the claim that the Bible supports it.

We are not taught to be strong and courageous (even though that is the Apostle Paul’s message for us). We aren’t urged to develop the kind of backbone needed in awkward situations with the opposite sex. We aren’t conditioned to be decisive and proactive.

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