• No, #MeToo Isn’t McCarthyism by S. Gilbert

No, #MeToo Isn’t McCarthyism by S. Gilbert

No, #MeToo Isn’t McCarthyism by S. Gilbert

Critics of the movement against sexual harassment and assault charge that it’s going too far, but their arguments take very little stock of what women are actually saying.

One of the criticisms of the #MeToo movement that’s emerged and re-emerged most tenaciously over the past few months is that women are consistently conflating major crimes with minor ones. Violent sexual assault isn’t the same thing as a swat on the behind in a crowded bar.

Targeted sexual harassment isn’t the same thing as a clumsy pass after too many vodka sodas have been consumed.

But this is a straw man argument—I have yet to find evidence of a single woman claiming that any of these things are equal.

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• Complementarianism As One Basis For Sexual Harassment Against Women by C. C. James

A commentary about the “Me Too” and “Church Too” twitter trends, which highlighted sexual harassment against women by men.

The author here basically says in a much shorter format what I said in an older post comparing Christian Gender Complementarianism to Codependency:

The Silence Breakers: A Kairos Moment for the Church

Snippets:

by Carolyn Custis James

….But without investigating and addressing the sources of the problem, our efforts will fall short and the epidemic will persist.

In good conscience, we cannot adequately address this epidemic without exploring causative factors that increase female vulnerability and allow for such violations against women to occur in the first place. Otherwise, we are fighting a losing battle. We must take preventative action too.

Those Ubiquitous S-Words
Rachel Simmons, author of Enough As She Is, put her finger on a major contributing factor when she wrote,

Women have been taught, by every cultural force imaginable, that we must be ‘nice’ and quiet’ and ‘polite,’ that we must protect others’ feelings before our own. That we are there for other’s pleasure.

The same kind of social messaging for women intensifies in the church, reinforced by the claim that the Bible supports it.

We are not taught to be strong and courageous (even though that is the Apostle Paul’s message for us). We aren’t urged to develop the kind of backbone needed in awkward situations with the opposite sex. We aren’t conditioned to be decisive and proactive.

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• Me Too, Sexual Harassment, and the Workplace: Compliment Accomplishments, Not Physical Appearance

Yet another complaint I’ve read or heard from “Me Too” Twitter trend objectors centers around men saying they are now reluctant or fearful to compliment a woman on her physical appearance at the office.

Some men now say they are afraid that an innocent, well-meaning remark to a woman co-worker meaning to praise her for looking nice at the office may be misconstrued as sexual harassment.

If you are a man, rather than compliment a woman boss, woman co-worker, or woman subordinate on her physical appearance, why not compliment her on what truly matters: her work-place accomplishments?

Why do you, if you are  a man, feel it’s necessary to tell a woman she looks lovely?

Why do you assume all, or most, women live to have your validation regarding their appearance? Why do you assume women need or want you to affirm their physical beauty, or to do so rather than praise them on matters having nothing to do with their looks?

If your co-worker Susie Smith delivers a really great sales presentation at your weekly staff meeting, why not tell her so?

Tell Ms. Smith how informative you found her presentation. If you did so, Ms. Smith would probably appreciate that much more than a male co-worker telling her, “I like that new dress you’re wearing.”

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• Response to the Editorial “Lame-o Hollywood Actresses Go Big — Wear Black! — to Fight [Sexual] Harassment” by Cheryl K. Chumley

Response to the Editorial “Lame-o Hollywood Actresses Go Big — Wear Black! — to Fight [Sexual] Harassment ” by Cheryl K. Chumley

I was just saying that dumb criticisms of the “Me Too sexual harassment campaign are being churned out almost faster than I can keep up with, and right after publishing that (seriously, within a handful of minutes), I saw a link to this Chumley piece go through my social media feed.

Note that I am critiquing the writing of a woman writer, not a man. (At least I assume with the first name of “Cheryl” that this is a woman.)

Why must I now point this out? Because some people are under the mistaken impression I am a misandrist, that I apparently only disagree with … men. And if you disagree with a man, this weird logic goes, that supposedly makes you a misandrist.

Some Hollywood actresses want to wear all black dresses to some Hollywood awards program, the Golden Globes, as a visual statement about being against sexual harassment in the workplace, which is a totally innocuous gesture, but writer Cheryl Chumley is in an uproar about it.

You can read her editorial on The Washington Times.

Here is how Chumley opens her editorial:

What courage, what bravery, what an unmitigated bold stroke of in-your-face protest — Hollywood actresses attending the 2018 Golden Globes have agreed to don black for the event, to send a solidarity-sistah message around the world that goes like this: Thou shalt not sexually harass.

… No reason a good protest can’t be fashionable, folks. …

After all, as the motto goes, sexual harassment may not be pretty — but we are.
~~~~~end Chumley quotes~~~~~

What is with all that cattiness and bitchiness? What is it to you if a bunch of actresses want to stage this symbolic gesture? Get over yourself.

Chumley also says:

Right. That’ll show ‘em. That’ll keep ol’ Harvey Weinstein in his place.
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I know that some Hollywood types are not very intelligent, but I would assume that most of them are not so dim as to believe that wearing black from head to toe is going to punish Weinstein, or other creeps similar to Weinstein.

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• You’re At Your Job To Do A Job – Not Flirt And Get Dates – Regarding the Backlash Over the “Me Too” Sexual Harassment Awareness Movement

You’re At Your Job To Do A Job – Not Flirt And Get Dates – Regarding the Backlash Over the “Me Too” Sexual Harassment Awareness Movement


(Part 2: Me Too, Sexual Harassment and the Workplace: Compliment Accomplishments, Not Physical Appearance)

There is so much stupidity or apparent willful ignorance in criticisms of the “Me Too” movement that I can hardly keep up with them all.

One of the several recurrent criticisms of the “Me Too” sexual harassment phenomenon that keeps coming up online or on television news programs are by people who are worried that people no longer feel comfortable flirting in the workplace.

How will people ever get dates or get married if all workplace flirting is verboten, they ask?

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• The Conservative (Right Wing) Criteria Required Before Believing Sexual Abuse Victims, As Put Forward by Some Conservatives – A Critique By A Conservative

The Conservative (Right Wing) Criteria Required Before Believing Sexual Abuse Victims, As Put Forward by Some Conservatives – A Critique By A Conservative

I was watching conservative news show “Tucker Carlson Tonight” on Fox cable news network on the evening of December 14, 2017, and I wanted to comment on the segment where Carlson interviewed Mark Steyn.

I usually agree with Carlson on many topics (I myself am a conservative), and I usually find Steyn quite amusing.

However, I’m not so sure I am on the same page as Carlson, Steyn, and a few other right wingers on the topic of sexual harassment allegations and how they should be treated or regarded.

On tonight’s edition of “Tucker Carlson Tonight,” Carlson let Steyn discuss the topic of sexual harassment in our culture.

Both gentlemen have expressed concern that women reporting sexual harassment has turned into some kind of “witch hunt” in which innocent men may be accused.

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• Take It From A Woman Who Has Worked In Tech For 25 Years: This Is No Witch Hunt by Stacey Epstein

Many conservatives remain skeptical that sexism (or sexual harassment) are as widespread as women say they are, and they incorrectly assume that secular, liberal feminists are lying or exaggerating about sexism, sexual abuse, or sexual harassment.

As I was just remarking in my last post, I am a conservative woman (not a left wing feminist), and I have personally experienced sexual harassment and sexism both in and out of the workplace, which I mentioned to highlight the reality of it.

(The occasions when I was the subject of sexual harassment by men were not invented by liberal, feminists. Hello, other conservatives and assorted flavors of anti-feminists.)

I too, like the author of this piece, have seen a trend in the last two or so weeks, for the most part, by conservatives (and the occasional pearl-clutching liberal woman), who continue to worry that the “Me Too” phenomenon, where-by women are finally being believed when they step forward to report sexual harassment by men, is going to “harm” men.

This worry on behalf of men is misplaced and is the wrong focus, as it makes men the center of a long-lasting, prevalent problem faced mainly by women, a problem caused and perpetuated by men.

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