It’s Not Self Pity When It’s Happening To You – Re: Classifying Other People’s Life’s Pain Derogatorily as “Self Pity”
This has become a very big pet peeve of mine in the last few years.
There are people out there, who, if you go to them when you’re undergoing a rough patch in your life, seeking empathy or encouragement – say, after the death of a family member, or what have you – they will later refer to this behavior of yours insultingly as “self pity.”
I have run into two people so far in the last few years who have classified my struggles as being “self pity,” with one of these people engaging in that behavior herself, but of course, she does not regard herself writing to me about being stressed or hurting as “self pity,” no.
I’ve also seen people on other sites refer to other people’s struggle to cope with depression, grief, job loss, or what have you, with the phrase “self pity.”
I am not convinced that any and all negative reactions to hurt, pain, and anxiety in life is always “self pity.” I think it’s often not self pity.